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writes: Hi, I am 19 years old and just graduated from high school. I am skinny and pretty good looking, but all of my life I have not really had any friends or girlfriends. I don't know what my problem is. I don't know why I can't find any friends or girlfriends.I guess I don't know how to approach women. When I walk by a girl I find attractive I usually ignore her and walk by because I think she might think I'm weird for staring at her or something. I guess i usually think that if a girl is attracted in me they will show me a sign or come after me. Can you help me in any way? thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2006): I am 27 years & I came from poor family. I didn't study well. Why I Will Never Have A Girlfriend? I have been chatting for 1 years - Now & then. I don't know why no gal want to chat with me. I never went to chat room. I send email to email, Some say I am ugly, some say I am fat & some say that I am boring. I don't know what to do? I never had a gal friend or a friend. This is my first time.
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reader, jimmy2  +, writes (30 April 2006):
 Hi,You are living in what was my world for 30 years, but please, don't wait as long as I did. I know exactly how you are feeling and it's agony inside. There are many ways to sort this out. Try finding part-time work where you will meet a lot of women, a bar or restaurant. Don't feel scared when one approaches you, try to feel comfortable and just be yourself with them. Before long you will get signals from one that she likes you, and you will know when this happens because it will probably make you go bright red, but don't be ashamed of that. When it reaches this stage it is ok to look at a woman with more than just a quick glance. Don't be afraid to make eye contact.Wait until they are alone, preferably somewhere fairly quiet and then speak to them, telling them how you feel about them and ask them out. This will seem terrifying but it's important that you beat this fear, bite the bullet and take the plunge and for this you have to kill your fear of rejection. So what if they say no, just move on, there is nothing un-natural about what you are doing here. If you don't and you let the fear win as I have done on so many occasions, they will move on and you will feel heartbroken, and thereafter it will hurt more with every opportunity you miss out on, and believe me there will be many of these. I hope this helps.
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reader, Angel ron +, writes (29 April 2006):
 Looks are not important its personality that counts .
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (29 April 2006):
 It can be hard to be social, especially if you live in a big city where everyone just seems to rush on by. Confidence is probably part of your problem and that may change with age. But for now, you could seek out friends and girlfriends through organised events...I am not talking 'singles discos' but rather sports or hobbies etc or doing voluntary work, it is easier to strike up a conversation and befriend someone when you can be sure you have at least something in common.
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reader, bonym +, writes (29 April 2006):
 Dear sir, I think you are being too hard on yourself. What I mean is, if you see a girl you like which will happen at some time and most times in your life, just let nature do its thing. Its not always about looks you know, for example recently I found myself attracted to a man whom I dont even particulary find physically attracted, but what attracted me to him was his beautiful personality, courteousness and the rest. Have some more confidence in yourself and if you see a pretty girl, dont think, she will never like me, have some confidence. xXx
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2006): Hey dont worry you have got your whole life ahead of you i dont get many boyfriends but it does not matter cause i am only young. So dont worry you will find that special someone soon.xX A gril
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 April 2006): Don't be afraid to strike up a conversation with a pretty girl. Flirt with her a little. You don't have to propose, but don't be afraid to be a little forward. Women often expect men to be the approachers, so if the man won't, niether will the woman. No woman will just turn around and start chasing you down the street. It's still pretty much the man's job to bring the woman around to being interested in him. This may not be the case for all women, but I, personally, have a hard time being interested in a man unless he and I have gotten to know each other a bit first. The only times it was different was when the man was very forward and approached me first. I don't know if this helps, but I hope things work out okay for you. Good luck!
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