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male
age
36-40,
*obwater86
writes:I have a dilemma...my girlfriend and I broke up about a little over a year ago. After I took awhile to heal I started dating again and have been meeting girls pretty often. Some of them I dislike and am upfront about it, others I like and try to date. The problem is the ones that I like and try to date don't seem to want to date. It seems as if their just trying to sleep with me as a friends with benefits or booty call type situation. Or just sleep with me one night and then that's it and find other guys to sleep with the next night. For example, one girl I met through a friend when she had a bunch of people over her apartment. We all went out and I ended up hooking up with her and sleeping over the girls place. I had a great time, and it seemed like she did too so a few days later I called her and took her out to dinner. I asked her after dinner if she wanted to go out and do something fun, but she wanted to go back to her place immediately and basically have sex. We kind of did, but I stopped cause I didn't have a condom and wasn't comfortable with it. I've tried calling her again to try to go out for dinner or something again and she claims she wants to, but is always busy and it seems like shes hinting at me just coming over to have sex and skipping dinner altogether. This has happened to me with almost every girl I've been with since my ex girlfriend. One girl we were randomly hooking up, and as soon as I asked her if she wanted to go on a fun date to this place where you learn to cook near where I live cut everything off altogether. I know I'm only 22 years old but to me while sex is obviously great I'm not looking for friends with benefits or just booty calls. I want to actually date girls so I can get to know them see who I like, explore more who I might want a relationship with in the future. I mean I thought other people would want that too but it just doesn't seem that way. How come none of the girls I meet want to date? Am I too old fashioned? The problem is if its all about sex how am I going to find girls I'm compatible with on more than a sexual level?
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (7 June 2009):
 I guess something is wrong here, because many girls do want serious involvements. Maybe it's something about you.
In the meantime, can I have your problem?
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