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writes:I'm in hs and my girlfriend and I have been together for almost a year. We are close and in the early stages of our relationship use to tell each other that we liked each other a lot. Now I feel like I love her... not necessarily that she is the one or anything like that but I feel a stronger emotional connection. Anyway for some reason I can't tell her I love her. I think she hasn't said it because she's the type of girl that will wait for me to say it first (its possible that she doesn't feel the same way but I do doubt that). Anyway I don't know why I can't say it or how to just say it but any advice? Reply to this Question
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reader, Blue_Angel0316 +, writes (8 September 2008):
 Love isn't always found in form of words but in deeds. Remember that actions speak louder than words! It is possible that she already knows and is just waiting to hear it from you. If she was taught to hold back she could indeed be waiting before she blurts it out. Many professional conselors advise women to hold back from telling the man you love them first.
It seems that you have some reservation about her being the one. Perhaps you aren't quiet sure that the word LOVE is the correct term for the emotional connection you feel. If you aren't quiet ready to say it then wait to tell her. If you feel it strongly however then why wait? Be prepared for her answer and hope it is what you are looking for. It's a win-win situation you might have found the LOVE of your life or your best friend.
God sends us into the lives of others for a day or for a season. When our lives connect with others we will be forever changed. You have so much time to get to the place you need to be. I pray that you will find the courage to speak up and your happiness will come by the Grace of God.
God bless,
Blue_Angel
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reader, scythe  +, writes (8 September 2008):
 It's a tough one hey.. I find myself in a similar position. I do love my boyfriend and I've told him before and he tells me too, but sometimes I look him in the eye and want to say it, but it just doesn't feel right or I can't bring myself to say the words.
I think its lovely that you've discovered that you have a deeper emotional connection to her that's not covered by 'I like you a lot'. Perhaps, if you feel comfortable talking to her about it, just explain to her that you feel something more for her.
Just remember that even though you can't physically say it, you're not a bad boyfriend. You still love her and she most likely loves you too. Give it time and don't make a big deal out of it. You will find the right time and place to say it eventually :) Continue to treat your girl with love in the meantime so she doesn't think you aren't ever gonna say it.
Take care and good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2008): i remember someone once said to me "more people break up for never saying it than saying it"
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reader, Lavendre  +, writes (7 September 2008):
 Baby never be afraid to tell your girl that you love her as a woman it when it take too long for you to tell your woman that you love her its like she hasnt accomplished anything from you and you guys arent reaching anywhere. And i know she's waiting on you to tell her first. So tommorow take one deep breathe and just say Baby I Love you, you might be surprised that she even starts crying when she hears this. You'll so good when you hear she says it back. Try it!!Good Luck!Lavendre X
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