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writes:Ok, so i'll start from the top. I met this guy, we'll call him Chris, while I was working my side job as a wedding photographer. He was a groomsman in his brothers wedding, and pursued me from the start. I was not the least bit interested for months, but my family and friends seemed enamored with him, and every one of our mutual friends had nothing but nice things to say about him, so I decided to give him a try. He's 30 years old, 7 years older than I am. He has a 10 year old son and is a full time, career firefighter. He treated me like a princess from the start. Called me beautiful everyday, texted me or called me atleast twice a day, and always wanted to take me out and spend time with me. I fell for him, decided to make it into an official relationship, and introduced him into my two childrens (ages 5 and 2) lives. His family loves me, my family loves him, and everyhing has been fine and perfect. I have noticed him texting me less and less over the past few months, but nothing significant, I just figured he was getting comfortable in the relationship. But for the past 3 days he's been acting completely different. He won't text me, he won't call me. He doesn't answer when I text him or call him either. I didn't worry too much after the first day, I knew he hadn't been feeling well so I figured he was probably just @ home sleeping, so I didn't contact him and I gave him his space. But than when I hadn't heard from him all day yesterday or this morning, I started to get concerned. He wouldn't text me back, so I had a co-worker text him from her phone asking if he had "so and so"'s phone #. He texted her back right away, which made me furious. So I called him from my office phone and he didn't pick up, so I left him a VM saying he needed to grow the f and ^#k up and so on and so forth, and then immediately sent me a text saying he was in a class and couldn't talk. So I texted him back saying "thanks for ignoring me" and he answered "huh". I waited a few hours to cool down and respond, and when I did I apologized for my voicemail earlier and just asked that he please atleast hit me up and let me know what the heck was going on and why he was blowing me off and all, and if I was wasting my time or not. No Response. So I wait three more hours and call him. He doesn't answer. So I text him just saying "call me plz" and he texts back "ok give me a little bit, we're all out to eat" (talking about the fire crew) Well, I was 4 more hours, and have still yet to hear from him. I got on Facebook and noticed that a pic of us taken on Thanksgiving, that had both of our names tagged in it, now only had my name. So I figured out he untagged himself from our picture. So I texted him asking if we were still going out tomorrow night (friday) for my bday (which is on Saturday) and he doesn't answer. So I wait 20 mins and text him again saying "I guess that's a no. Thanks 'Chris'" I have feelings for this guy already. I could see myself marrying him. He was just perfect, too good to be true. My children love him. My son is 2 and is now obsessed with fire trucks and wants to be a fireman just like 'Chris' now. My daughter wants him to be her daddy. I feel like I've been blindsided, I don't even know if he even considers us still together or not at this point. What am I supposed to do or think? Why can't he be man enough to just tell me honestly what's going on?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2010): F#ck him,best advice I can give!!
Don't text him,don't call him,Facebook him...NOTHING!!
Play him at his own game,act like you don't give a f#ck.
If hes gona treat you like that don't even piss on him if hes on fire =)
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reader, 0000BraveHeart0000  +, writes (4 December 2010):
 Get used to it, men are just hard to figure out. That does not mean that we cannot be the one in the relation to take charge. Chris sounds like a nice guy, the question at hand however is how serious he is about you? sighss Like you said, the reason he is not texting you back quite as often is because he may have settled in the relationship and does not feel the need to call so often as he is now with you as opposed to the days when he was pursuing you. The fact that you have to go through all that series of calling him is crap. Why couldnt he just answer your call the first time and tell you what is going on? Because normally I would advise girls not to call a guy alot of time as it gets on their nerves but you called him 1-2-3-4 and he didnt answer. You have to look at the untagged photo as well. Maybe he just does not want that much attention because I know of men who even if they have a girlfriend, they do not want the world to know, I do not think he took it down because he is over you.The best thing I could tell you right now is to only call/text him once a day. Whether he answers the call/text or not ....do not increase the limit. The whole point is to make him want you just as much as you want him. Perhaps , if you ignore him for a couple or few days, he would call you. Men often miss you more when you cease to be all caught up with them and they would not take you for granted.Hope I helped!!
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