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anonymous
writes: ive been with my boyfriend for a yr and everything was good well at times it still is to a certain point. he has been tryng to deal with my pass. i had cheated twice on my ex husband. and he has such a big prblm with that he calls me names he says that am a cheater thats what am good for just to cheat. he puts me down he really acts like it was done to him. i really want to know why guys hold on to the pass and feel this way? he constantly asks me the things i did in bed with them its like he is hurting himself in wanting to know i would never ask him those questions about his pass. can someone please help me understand why?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2010): I think my boyfriend cheated on one of his ex with another ex. I call them both dirty names sometimes. The simple reason why is, I'm afraid he'll do the same too me. You got it in you to cheat and your partner so scared your do it to him.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (30 September 2010):
I'll turn the question around. Why do you feel it's acceptable to stay with a man who shows you no respect, treat you like dirt, interrogates you and insults you?
This is not your problem. It's hit. And it's not worth staying with him.
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reader, bruce lee  +, writes (30 September 2010):
 You want the truth? Men have a sense of entitlement. They can't let go of the past because if they don't get what they're entitled to (or what they want), it hurts.
My Psychologist has told me before that it is a bad attitude to think one is "entitled" to something. He told me we're not entitled to anything.
That everything should be seen as a privelege. Maybe you should explain this to your bf. It might make him feel better. And then he'll get off your back.
Good luck with it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2010): maybe hes jst insecure, hes thinking if u have done that to your ex husbnabd, u might also cheat on him with some1 else
im sure thats whats going on in his mind. just try to explain to him that hes everything to u and you would never even think about cheatin on him ( if its true )
and i guess this way he will get over this TRUST issue i would say
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2010): He doesn't trust you.
He doesn't respect you.
The worst thing is that you are with him because you don't respect yourself.
Move on and out of this relationship, take some time to work on you, learn to respect yourself by working on yourself, and don't let your past color your future.
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