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*wendwa
writes:I have been dating this girl for the past four months now. She claims she can never say the words " I love you" and even when I express my love to her she doesn't respond. she avoids intimacy and only kissed me once. on valentines day I bought her a teddy bear, some flowers and a designer dress. she also bought me a rose lamp. when we were to exchange the gifts she told me not to expect any love gesture from her -no kiss no peck no hug no nothing . she wanted to give me her gift casually. I refused to accept her gift without a kiss and we didn't exchange the gifts. my question is I love this girl so much but I cannot understand why she treats me so cold. should I leave her and move on or should I wait for the time she can be intimate with me?
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reader, mwendwa +, writes (28 February 2007):
mwendwa is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you all for your answers. one of the respondents asked whether I have asked her. I have and she gives vague answers like 'cause I don't want to ' or asks what is the rush for
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (28 February 2007):
 You're going to have a long wait if you want her to be intimate with you when she can't even give you a hug. Why is she like this? Have you asked her? There is obviously a reason for her behaviour. I can see how some people can't say the infamous words I love you but if she really liked you and had feelings for you then she would WANT to show you by giving you a hug or a kiss.
I would try and talk to her more about this. Ask her why she finds this so hard to do. Has she always felt this way? Why? What does she find so difficult or frightening about it all?
Eve
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reader, kenny +, writes (27 February 2007):
 Some people find it difficult to show emotion and love. It pains me to say it but i think this stems deeper than this. Going by what you wrote in you question it sounds as though there is no love there for you atal. She has not shown one bit of affection to you in four months, so my guess is she is not going to any time soon.
I think you should move on a find someone with the warmth and passion and love that you deserve. Of course this is just my opinion, you must do what you feel is right.
Good luck
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