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writes:hi cupids! this might be a silly thing to ask on here i just dont know how else to find out and its very embarrassing! theres obviously a lot of ladies on here so hoping you can help! :) im 19, i was very young and nieve when i lost my virginity (was just 14!) i obviously regret it but past is past,, but recently my boyfriend (of 2 years) and i split up.. and ive met a guy.. we've both made it clear theres no attatchments and neither of us want a relationship, its just safe sex with a decent (sexy! lol) guy.. but he asked me the other night if id ever had or considered phone sex! (whichi havent) buf we decided to give it a try! (ive never masturbated! ever..) he knows this.. so he phoned me (nerves kicked in!) he was telling me what to do... anyway we got carried away! lol.. he cum!he started again after a bit.. i was enjoying myself tbh! he started sending me pics.. and was talkin so rude! but i couldnt reach orgasm!! everytime i got close i stppped.. was asif i physically couldnt do it nomore.. and the more i tried.. the more it bothered me! he has made mr orgasm a few times.. by intercourse and foreplay... but i cannot makr myself!!! the more i try.. the harder it seems! surely i should be able to make myself more than him making me! is there a reason for this?! why can i not pleasure myself to orgasm?! can anyone adcise me...
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 February 2012): Although I'm a male reader, I feel like I can help. It could potentially be a mentality issue. You say you've just broken up with your ex-boyfriend? How did that go exactly?
There are such things as sexual expectations; having a partner for 2 years, one comes attuned to they're touch and method. It seems like you've got to the point where, you've lost your touch as you relied on him?
Also, how many sexual partners have you had? If a large amount, then you should be used to almost anything. If a smaller, then its easier to diagnose the problem.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2012): The secret to doing it your self or with someone else is in your head not your body parts ;) when you mentally let go and let your imagination run wild, holding your breath can help it cut off oxygen but you dont have to do it, its a out of body expierience the wilder your imagination the better, kinda a movie in your head and your the star! When you during sex you can easily do this many times over until you beg him to stop as long as your guy isnt a minute man or woman to be fair. ;) so just relax and get in your own head and let your dirty thoughts run wild when the tibgles start dont stop mentally or physically till your brain explodes! This is the best gift us woman have that men will always envy! ;)Good luck hope 'that helps! Dont forget you should have these every time you try as many times as you want!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2012): This may sound weird, but I have to hold my breath in order to reach orgasm when I'm by myself. I'm assuming you are referring to manual clitoral stimulation. Try it! It works for me.
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