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writes:Ok i was on a date with a girl a couple of nights ago and everything was going well. We were just in this nice bar place, when some guy friend of hers from her school days recognized her and walked over to say hi. I thought that would be it, hello, how are you, blah blah blah and he would go. But instead he sat down, bought us all drinks and stayed then just talked non-stop! I tried to break it up, get him to leave, but i couldn't, not without being rude anyway. After an hour of this i left. And now i feel really stupid and guilty for doing so. I should never have left. I should have just been polite and put up with it, but this guy basically screwed up the whole evening. Next day i texted her apologising and told her i had a great time etc, and she replied telling me not to worry and she also had a great time, but im not so sure. Im definetly gonna ask her out for another night, but just want to know what people think. Have i been stupid and blown my chance with her?
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reader, chickpea2011  +, writes (30 January 2012):
 Hi,
No, you were not stupid at all behaving the way you did. I understand how you felt, and staying 1 hour listening to the friend talk blah, blah, blah, was actually nice of you. Unless one of you asked him to sit, he shouldn't have invited himself, that's actually rude of him. I think your date didn't say anything, because she was caught up, didn't know what to do, and probably didn't want to be rude. Well, it's past, over and done. I think it was nice of you texting her next day, and I think that her response was positive. I don't think you blow up your chances, I feel that you still have a good chance with her... And I do believe she's still interested in getting to know you better. Just know that, you did the right thing, and it's very good that you were so nice, patient with her friend. Actually, that's a plus for you. I like when the person that I am with is polite and nice to my friends and family. Hopefully, nobody will interrupt in your next date :)
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (29 January 2012):
 Not sure if you blew it, but honestly since he was HER friend she should have told him you two were out on a date. And he should have buggered off. Honestly, I would have left too, but I would have pulled her aside and told her that you felt like a 3rd wheel wasn't what you had had in mind for a date.My guess is, she might not be so into you, but it might be worth trying for another date.Unless he was cockblocking you (to put it bluntly) as in, he is "interested" in her too.
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reader, AbigailBradbury +, writes (29 January 2012):
 I don't think you've been stupid at all. If this girl knows you like her, she'd understand why you left, and if she likes you as well, she was probably thinking the same, but she was just being polite; which yes, maybe you should have done. At the end of the day it was her friend not yours.Don't feel bad, you definitely haven't blown it. Just explain you felt like a spare part and didn't want it to be awkward. girls love honesty xx
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