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writes:So this is a weird one, I came across a local musician online. Thought his music was great, had a few conversations with him. Sometimes I got the impression he liked me but I put clear boundaries down of no. I'm here for music and music only. All seemed cool.I'm married and a mum and work full time so don't have much time to be active online but when I could I'd support and chat to him, he then did a live concert and unfortunately due to my family commitments I couldn't go.I did hear back from friends who did go he was hurt by that. Some things are unavoidable though and I did buy his CDs ectSo fast forward and I came online to discover he had blocked me? Nothing was said, infact I hadn't said anything to him in 2 months. So why would he do that? Just so bizzare?So it is the most bizarre thing to me.Why would he block me? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2024): Hi
More to the point why are you even bothered? stop trying to fool people. So your blocked, thank goodness it's not from your husband he should be what counts. Stop fooling people, your husband, your friend, yourself and agony aunts.
Either be honest and end your marriage, or ask Mr Music on a date, and break your homelife up. Wake up to honesty before you live to regret becoming a cheat.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (8 January 2024):
 Does it really matter WHY he blocked you?
He (or whomever is in charge of his social media) blocked you for whatever reason.
You can still enjoy his music without having contact with him or be on his social media.
I'd just let it go.
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reader, kenny  +, writes (8 January 2024):
 How very strange, not sure why that happened, or why he would do that.
As you say you are there for music and music only so just carry on as you are and carry on enjoying what your doing and try to not let the actions of some strange people ruin things for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2024): Devils advocate for a second?
Did you ever say anything to him that may
Did you blow hot and cold?
Did you enjoy his attention,be honest?
Did he develop feelings for you and realised you were playing him and choose to cut it off?
If you didn't like him that way and he liked you. I think blocking you was the correct move for him.
Leave him alone, turn to your husband for attention and let this guy find a single girl who will be interested.
I think you had no interest in him at all, and just looked to him for attention and a ego boost. Why else would you be bothered he blocked you and no longer willing too? Good for him I say!
Now go and do something nice for your husband and stop stressing over a man you claim you aren't interested in anyway.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2024): Thank you for the responses and to answer the response of, 'Well known' I wouldn't put them into that group at all Miley Cyrus is well known, This Musician was a local one who hadn't ever expanded past their own Zip code,if I said their name you would most definitely ask who? Unless you lived in their Zip code, not even state.
So it was very bizarre to me that they would block me when they are just starting out and I hadn't done anything wrong to them. I don't think they are big enough for big admin teams either but who knows.
I know my support will be going to others and not them. Good luck to them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2024): Sorry to burst your bubble and bring you down to earth. But professional musician who are well known enough to sell dvds and concerts do not read and reply to their own mail, they have a secretary for that, just as they have housekeeper, publicist etc. And they do not need support from a stranger. They get hundreds of emails from fans each day and are too busy to read or reply to them.
You say you were only interested in his music, if that is true you do not need to contact him, you go to his concerts and buy his cds or whatever. I am a fan of a well known actor but I am streetwise enough to know I have a crush on him and admit to it, I am also realistic enough to know he is far too busy to be interested in his own time. I watch his films and read about him, and nothing more. You pretend it is about his music when you want more, you are maybe a bored housewife wanting a fantasy life online.
Professional people who are musicians, actors etc come across this type of thing all the time. It is one of the reasons they pay staff to do the boring time consuming tasks like reading their emails! If they want support they can get that off other professional musicians who understand them far better than you ever could. You are not versed in how their industry works or a therapist so you could never really support him.
You get blocked because you are a fan and timewaster, there is nothing in it for him to chat to you or to pay one of his staff to. It would be a full time job with so many fans writing.
And if you were really only interested in his music, as you claim, you would not be emailing, not put out when you cannot.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2024): It sounds to me that he liked you & wanted more than friendship that you were offering, despite you making it clear to him you were only interested in his music. The fact you didn’t go to his concert clearly hit a nerve with him so he got upset & blocked you. I feel this was a little immature of him….
You did nothing wrong. It’s him not you with the issue.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2024): He is one of those clingy types. Leave it at that or he can be a big headache for you in the future.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2024): Sounds like he's a bit of a weird one, I'd say you had a lucky escape. You don't loose anything if what you are saying is true, for him though it's one less sale. If it's all as black and white as you say. Just move on and forget it. I'm sure 100's of other musicians would appreciate your support and not be weird and block you.
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