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writes:Hello, and thanksI'm currently in a dating someone for approximately 8 months. He pressures me to see him frequently. He pressures me to talk on the phone. As an example. I'm sick and have barely any voice he will start texting and I'll tell him I barely have a voice he says to call anyways. It's things of this nature that turn me completely off.Also, he admitted to having sex with someone recently because I apparently didn't give him sex yet. No offense but I'm not ready for sex yet. I like him but alot of things turn me off about him. I dislike being pressured into seeing him, or calling him. Also the excuse of having sex with someone else because he's a man . Thanks for your advice
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2024): I'm taken aback by this anonymous lady's perspective! If individuals choose to take their time to know each other before becoming intimate, those in a rush should not pressure them or sleep around!. Is this the American dating culture that often becomes the butt of jokes in other nations? This approach seems meaningless and distasteful.
To the OP, this man clearly lacks respect for you. He doesn't appreciate the value in waiting. My advice is to let go of this disrespectful individual and find someone who shares your values.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 January 2024): He has every right to have sex with others if you don't have sex with him and don't see him much. You are not really an item then. He can do what he wants and so can you. If someone pressures me to see them or chat on phone I don't explain I just say no and put phone down, or don't turn up or whatever. Been doing that since 15. Nobody is owed an explanation of why you are too busy or not interested but if you start explaining you are justifying yourself to the point where nothing that you say is good enough and they totally ignore it and do what they want. You show too much concern for how they feel and what they want and they disregard what you feel and want then. Personally I don't date guys who are keen on wanting sex quick and would never sleep with a guy until there is love there, not just after one day or because he feels like it. But eight months is a long time for a guy to see you regularly and wait. He told you about it so that you would see it as your fault he went elsewhere and hurry up in giving him sex. Oh so obvious. If you want free advice about your love life. Or
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (9 January 2024):
 Just dump him.
If he has sex with other people, he isn't committed to you.
He sounds like a douche.
If you are sick and can barely talk, then you can't not be on the phone. That is logic.
And girl. you are in your 30's, you can say no, you know?
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reader, kenny  +, writes (9 January 2024):
 I think in a relationship its important to look out for red flags.
From what you have mentioned in your post what he has done to you would make most people ditch him and run for the hills.
Your post is just full of negatives about him, and to top it all he has been unfaithful to you and slept with someone else because you were not ready, so what does that tell you about what sort of person he is.
After he has done this to you do you think you could trust him not to do this again.
In a nut shell, he is no good for you, ditch him, block, delete and move on and don't look back, you can do better.
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