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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I have recently quit my job a month ago and during that time I went on two family vacations. Now that things have settled and I am looking for a new job, I have a lot of spare time. My boyfriend and I used to be on opposite schedules with a few hours between work schedules and we would see each other 4 days a week. Now that I don't have a job I see him maybe 3 days a week. Sometimes whenever he comes a friend of his calls him to hang out and he runs out to join that friend. I'm starting to get really peeved, tomorrow he just told me that he going out with another coworker shopping before a work party that I am supposed to be going to also, but with the time allotment it sounds like I am going to have to meet him at his work party. He has been increasing his tennis lessons and partners matches, I am not sure what is going on. We are spending less time together and I am getting really mad. He is supposed to move in to my place next week, which I have been getting ready for in my spare time. It just feels like he is going to not be here a lot.
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reader, AbigailBradbury  +, writes (15 September 2012):
 It sounds like he has got the perfect life. Sorry, I am being brutally honest and I know it's hard. But honestly?
He gets to fool around with his mates and come and go as he pleases, then he gets the nice woman to settle down with when he clicks his fingers.
He sounds like a teenager and you sound like his mum.
I don't mean that in a bad way! I just mean he's taking advantage. Maybe you should postpone the moving in. It sounds as though you're making all the effort and doing a lot of the chasing and it's not fair. You're worrying and getting yourself mad and worked up when he's out pi**ing about - do you think he's worrying about you when he's out? No. Exactly. So act like you're not bothered and play it aloof.
Good luck, don't be a door mat honey, you deserve a man that wants the same things as you.
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