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writes:Why are the men in porn so average whereas the women are usually very attractive?My SO and I watch some porn and it seems that in the vast majority the women are outstandingly attractive whereas the men are, very often, borderline ugly.This leaves me feeling a little insecure I admit and if feel more comfortable if the couples we more fairly matched yet my SO likes close up porn and reality porn and professional porn rather than just amateur all the time.Why is it like this . There are also so many choice that all seem focused on the women and their bodies and not a lot aimed at women except women friendly which is often tame . Why
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 February 2015): As a few others have said, virtually any woman would be physically able to perform in porn, but very few men are able to physically do it.
BTW my wife was complaining about ugly men in porn. We discovered that some European movies have nicer looking men.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2014): 1. To make the fantasy more real for guys.2. They are the only people who apply for that kind of thing.3. Decent looking people can make money being a proper model.4. Most people in the world are average looking.Saying that some American porn movies do have "attractive" men in, my ex stated the guy had to be attractive aswell as the woman. Watching an ugly person having sex is not appealing.I think a lot of creepy guys watching porn with average guys in can start to believe hot women in real life will have sex with them.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2014): To keep up with the male fantasy that they can get a HOT BABE to do the nasty with them..
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reader, maverick494  +, writes (7 December 2014):
I think CMMP makes a good point. Porn is made for men, or well, basically the male fantasy (which I hope doesn't line up very much with their hopes and desires in reality, because the porn industry is messed up). And that fantasy means not being upstaged by a super hot dude. It also means an exaggerated representation of women, and an inaccurate representation of sex. Kind of like the way a Michael Bay movie represents a war zone.
Don't feel insecure compared to the porn actresses. Most, if not all of these women do not actually want to do that job. They just ended up in it and can't get out for the time being. Most of them are on drugs to get them through the pain and the experience. Most of them end up with long term health issues because the human body is not made for the kind of sex that's popular in the porn industry. So yeah, no need to be insecure; you're off way better than they are.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2014): I don't think porn actresses are nearly as attractive as they are made to sound right now. I think most men, if he could have his choice of any woman in the world, I don't think it would be a porn actress. Especially if we are referring to looks and aesthetics alone. There are so many beautiful women in the world. So you have this breed of women from middle earth who have mastered the art of stripping for the camera, unabashedly perform sex while squealing like pigs. When any woman acts overly sexual and erotic, it can completely blind the person watching her to her flaws and subpar looks. His focus is on her nudeness and her being in heat. Take alot of these same women, take off the makeup, throw on some sweats, a oversized sweatshirt and put them in the supermarket pushing a cart, then tell me what you think of her? Lets face it, the lure of porn stars is not cause of what they look like but mainly cause of what they ACT like. These women are not necessarily beautiful. They are uninhibited and that is their lure. And it kind of bothers me when people blur the lines of being beautiful with acting like a hooker. They are not the same thing. And it reinforces stereotypes that should be long buried in the past. Why are male porn stars so unalluring? It's called social engineering. It's a man's world. Men are not a piece of meat to be put on display like a pig at the butcher. A man is a man! He works. He watches football. He would never pose in a thong head down trying to lick his nipple to appeal to women who will scroll through his and other men's pics like she's shopping for shoes. Why not? Cause he is a man. He's got dignity. Not sure where or why women lost theirs. Any woman who can take back her pants can do far more than a porn star can and turn any man into putty. I think men fear this. Pornography and this submissive view of women is a way to keep women under their thumb.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2014): The women are average as well. Hours in the makeup chair, and getting their hair done does wonders. See them without the makeup and with their hair slicked back into a bun, and you wouldn't even know they were the same people. That's not to mention boob jobs, labiaplasty and God only knows what else. The men are (usually) all natural. The women are not, that's the only difference.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 December 2014): Maybe because good looking men are less likely to do that kind of job. Maybe it goes back to social constructs. Men who are good looking are more likely to know their value in society. Probably set higher standards for themselves. And therefore it's the creepy looking guys, with little to no opportunities, who are available for that kind of work. Whereas a lot of good looking women, because of the way society is, don't know their value. They had poor role models growing up and easily adhered to the idea that sex sells and nothing else. I met a porn actress once. She is a very pretty girl but a complete weirdo. She told me that she was an ugly duckling in high school. She was tormented and bullied and boys paid zero attention to her. She says she always craved attention. She longed to be in the spotlight. She wanted guys to like her, to be attracted to her. So through porn she could finally get the attention she always craved and never had. It was her way of saying, "ha, look what you missed out on!" She had a bone to pick with all the people who ignored her. And she gets her "revenge" by degrading herself to pornography. Swear to God, true story. Underneath the surface, it's a effed up industry with many levels to it, often pathetic in nature. And the result is what you see and what you get.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2014): Its mainly about keeping it up. Having very high natural Testosterone levels helps that happen. But too much Testosterone does not produce the prettiest faces.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (6 December 2014):
 I'm one of those guys who is drop-dead gorgeous.... and don't take part in porn.... so I can give you a definitive reply..... To wit:
Nobody ever ASKED me to do some porn stuff!!!!!!
You can be sure that - if they did... and IF they came through with the BIG BUX.... I would, certainly, sell my soul in order to "get it on" with one of those hot BABES that you know are in those flix!!!!!!
Keep watching.... you may see me there, after all, some time in the future....
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (6 December 2014):
 I think it's pretty obvious, the majority of porn is made FOR and BY men. So what has to catch the buyer's/viewer's eyes is the females.
Men can't "fake" being in the mood. So they have to use "actors" who can keep it up - where as with women porn "actors" - well they can fake it all day, and the audience in none the wiser. So I think hiring women who "fits" the porn criteria of what the "average" viewer wants to LOOK at is way more important.
I mean seriously, why do you think someone like Ron Jeremy got to be such a success in that business? NOT because of his acting skills or looks... it's ALL about the penis.
And of-course there is the "usual" excuse that MEN are such visual creatures.
If pron makes you feel insecure, WHY use it? How about using your imagination WITH your man? And why watch something that makes you feel inferior? (though I don't really get that, personally - so the women in the porn is pretty or has big boobs, no ass or can contort herself into a pretzel, WHY compare yourself? Do you compare yourself to Angelina Jolie, if you watch a movie she is in? I mean SHE is drop-dead GORGEOUS, but SHE is there to TELL a story (visually) not make YOU feel bad. NEITHER are the female porn "actors", they are there to make men think that if Ron Jeremy type guys can "score" and have sex with a "hawt babe" so can the viewer.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (6 December 2014):
 Porn is the ultimate "non-reality" The women are good looking so as to make it appear that even the pretty ones actually LOVE having wild sex when the sad reality is women (pretty or not) hate to do the fantasy acts seen.The guys are hired for one atribute(their penis size) and once hired, they find they're asked to perform some fairly tedious tasks,ergo, not a lot of good looking guys have to stoop to those work ethics. they can continue waiting tables until their acting careers pick up. The guys "performing" porn don't have a need to be all groomed and "pretty -boyish" like the actor hopefulls. They just need to be well endowed. the big ones make the big bucks and are in demand. That's my take on it all.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2014): As others have said, male-female porn is aimed at a male audience.
Using average-to-ugly men caters to the viewer's fantasy that he too might have a chance with a seemingly unattainable woman.
Also since many males are uncomfortable with the idea of being aroused by other guys, using unattractive men removes that barrier. It's okay for a guy to be a fan of a well-endowed male porn star when he's ugly because the fan is admiring the actor's ability to get laid; admiring a handsome guy with a big dick might indicate a latent desire to engage in gay sex, which is strictly taboo in heterosexual circles.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2014): Thats how itis in real life:).
99% of porn viewers are men. That's why an appearance of a womanis more important.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (6 December 2014):
 Because porn is made mainly for guys. The other factor is that a good male porn star needs to always have an erection, and be able to keep it hard while being filmed and watched by other people... Unfortunately the men who can keep it up arent always attractive, but they still get the jib. It bothers me too, some times these guys are so ugly its a turn off. But for the main viewers; men, it doesnt matter that de dude is ugly, because he focuses on the woman. Try finding gay porn, where an attractive male will be more likely.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (6 December 2014):
Because men watch way more porn than women do. And they don't look at the guys...or maybe an ugly guy makes them think they could get the girl.
Tbh I am not attracted to porn stars, they look too fake for me.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (6 December 2014):
Because men watch way more porn than women do. And they don't look at the guys...or maybe an ugly guy makes them think they could get the girl.
Tbh I am not attracted to porn stars, they look too fake for me.
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