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writes: Hi,I know this might sound pathetic but, I have 2 best friends. One of them I can be nasty to at times - in fact most of the time - and she's a real good friend for coping with me. But I want to stop being this nasty bitch. I have tried so hard to be nice all the time, but not yet succeeded. I do want to be her friend. HELP!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2005): All I have to say is to be a "bitch" to anyone is a personal choice, dear. Respect for others is based on your own self-respect. When you respect other people, you speak politely and don’t hurt people’s feelings by saying unkind things or making fun of them. You show good manners and care about other people. You treat others fairly and you think it is good to share. You know how to show tolerance to people who share different beliefs and opinions from your own. One other word comes to my mind..Dignity. When you feel the urge to be "bitchy" to your friend, please think before you say. It's likely you are hurting her and she's not saying anything. If you can't be nice to her, then best to let her find other friend who will treat her with respect. And please, think about "why" you are this way..you may find the world a happier, brighter place, treating others with common courtesy and respect. Good luck!
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reader, timmyboy +, writes (31 October 2005):
This kinda happened to me, long story short, i used to be a boarding school my friend (a complete stoner, sorry about the way the conversation is going) got me to try a splif, ever since then my relationship with him went down hill, mainly my fault, he was a great friend and apart from his casual cases of getting high, we were very good friends, but since then i kinda thought of him as being a common person (hard to explain) so i made digs at him all the time, jokes about him, usually involving dieing early, ever time i saw him i asked are you stoned etc, and i slowly became annoying to him, i gave my other friends things and not him etc. But after a few months apart (roughly 6 months) i cant wait to see him, he is an amazing laugh and i enjoy his company. Maybe you should do the same, have less and less time togethor and try and get as many days/weeks months apart somehow, and either you will find you cant wait to come back and see her and remember the good quailtys about her or you realise that now she has become someone you dont like, sorry if it sounds bad, i am just coming from past experience.
And by the way i never smoked it again!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2005): Maybe you and your mate spend too much time together. Therefor she will get on your nerves it sounds like your board. Its like familey you love them but sometimes you just cant help having a little snap whnt you start to feel trapped. So some time away would help and who knows you will probbabley even miss her! And will stopp you from being a big meanie and lurn to be gratful to her for sticking by you even when you bite her head off. Lucky you to have har!
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reader, MissMariah1984 +, writes (31 October 2005):
I think sometimes it can be easy to be rude or "bitchy" to other females, especially ones that you know will cope with it, and as you said, you know this friend will cope with it. My advice to you is anytime you are getting ready to say something rude or bitchy, think first.... "how would I feel if someone said this to me, especially someone who claimed to be my best friend." If the answer to your question is that it would hurt your feelings, then think twice before saying it. Always put yourself in the other persons shoes and hopefully that can help you better address the situation. Hope this helps xoxoxo Mariah
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2005): The more someone allows you to be with way with them the more you will be this way..you need to talk to her and explain that you dont mean to be like this and that she has got to get tougher on you.
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reader, angelicdivauk  +, writes (30 October 2005):
 i think what you need to do is work out exactly what annoys you about her, when you react in a bitchy way. Try and work out how you can cope with this in a better way, like laughing it oof, then also, stop and think what you are about to say to her befor being bitchy...Good Luck!xxx
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