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writes:Well this is my first help on here... i came on here to try and see what i can do because im lost at the moment. im 17 and broke up with my long term girlfriend 6 months ago, we were together for nearly 2 years and have a 8 month old son together.i thought i was over her for a long time, decieding to go from girl to girl because i know i have a flaw where i need to be loved, but recently i think im still in love with her. shes got a new boyfriend and it hurts when i go see my son and i know that shes always thinking of him. im thinking about her all the time again and remebering all the things that made me happy and i cant get her out of my head. yet me and her still have a special spark between each other we havent been romanticly involved since we broke up but we can still both be flirty but am i being silly being stuck in this hopefull state? how do i move on? i feel like i cant get into another relationship until this is sorted. i wasn't the greatest boyfriend in the world. Just the opposite. i think the pressures of being a 16/17 year old dad got to me although saying that makes me sound like a cop out.am i being obsessive over her? why cant i seem to want to be in a new relationship? why am i waiting around for her?
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reader, Minelisse  +, writes (30 November 2007):
 The thing when ending a relationship is the emotional ties take a lot longer to brake and most times one needs to work on making that a healthy break.
The two of you will have a relationship for life as your son will unite the two of you. (By the way, I think you are a great guy for taking care of your son as such a young age; he really needs a healthy and strong father figure, so work in that!).
Back to you, my suggestion would be to take sometime alone. You will not be able to start a healthy relationship until you have figured out what went wrong, what you could change, what you need of a partner and what you can give at this time of your life.
You are really young, you will have time to meet women and have partners, try to concentrate on your future and your kids future... work on that and on yourself as you are becoming a man. good luck!
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reader, josephinesmom  +, writes (30 November 2007):
Sex is emotionally & spiritually binding. Having a child secures that bond. Your in love with her and that love no matter who you move onto will remain there.
You could and will eventually move on, but learn about your short comings and your good sides first.
Other wise you will be back on this page discussing baby momma number two and how much more worse you have become.
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