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writes:We started dating about 8 months ago and it was the most amazing relationship i had ever been in. we did everything together, we were both very deeply in love. But things got a little rough over the summer considering we are both 16 neither of us have jobs or cars, so we didn't really have a lot to do but spend time together, I think it was the best summer ever. But I could feel her slowly changing, talking less, less interested in me, she got moody wich wasn't normal. and she is almost always with her friends now. so why is it that everytime she tells me she has plans with someone else it feels like my heart has been crushed? I feel like she drifted away from me because of my attachment to her.
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reader, Ifyoudontmind +, writes (27 August 2009):
Ok, so here is the best thing you can do. Don't allow yourself to look desperate and needy GIRLS HATE THAT. Seriously with the whiny like, oh why cant you hang out with me I really miss you... don't play that card.Trust me bro, trust me. Instead when she is out with her friends, volley it right back. "Oh your going out tonight, that's fine, I was going to go shoot pool tonight anyway, I just wanted to see if you wanted to go. No stress" you know what I mean..Don't be a dick, but just show that you have a life outside of her, and if you don't , you need one. Because if your whole life revolves around her.. and all the sudden God forbid, it ends... you have nothing left to stand on.I did this one once, and its brutal.So in conclusion, try to just be relaxed about it, don't let it hurt you she wants to be with her friends, go be with yours. Try to incorporate groups, don't do things couple specific, do things out of the ordinary, take her to a concert. Text her periodically just to say she is beautiful. Don't smother her, just remind her. Don't be clingy.. she will walk.-iydm
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 August 2009): Maybe she feels a bit stifled in the relationship and just wants some time with her friends. I understand how painful this must be for you, especially if everything seemed fine up until now.
I think the best thing might be to give her a bit of space. I know this might be difficult, but it could be what she needs at the moment. Things might improve if you both spend a bit of time away from each other.
It is easy to become attached to the person you are with. At first, both people usually want to spend as much time together as possible. But after a little while, that tends to ease off a bit, and it can be nice to have a bit more time for yourself. It sounds like that is how she feels, but it might not be how you feel.
So try giving her some space, as difficult as it may be. If things don't improve though, then maybe you could talk to her and find out what is wrong. If you don't ask her, you won't know what might be troubling her. I hope things go well. x
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reader, sparks01  +, writes (27 August 2009):
go out with your friends more if she drifts away then theres plenty more fish in the sea but if u dont text her or ring her for a while and let her contact u and u say ur busy she might say well do u fancy going out on this day then thats reeled her back in, if ur with your partner 24/7 it bores the relationship cuz u have nothing new to talk about and the relationship wears out just spend some time apart and see wot happens
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