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Why am I not getting angry even when treated like dirt?

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Question - (5 March 2011) 1 Answers - (Newest, 6 March 2011)
A female United States age 41-50, anonymous writes:

Hi

My bf and i was together for 1.5 years. i cant say it was great, we had our ups and downs. But lately i started to feel that my outlook on things changed. Before i used to be very agressive and if someone accuses me of something and even if they are right i used to get angry and try to fight back.

Now its like my bf used to abuse me/neglect me/avoid me often. Even if i try i couldnt get angry on the way he treats me, i was hurt by the way he treats me but never angry. Whenever people started to say things about me, i started to think its somehow my fault and try to amend things with them, but not angry for the way they treat me. Is something seriously wrong with me.

Why i am not getting angry even when people treat me like dirt.

I could really use some advice. Please please help me.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2011):

it sounds like your self esteem has been lowered (maybe due to the abusive treatment by your boyfriend) that's why you can no longer get angry? usually if people have high self esteem they get angry when other people are mean to them. But if you have low self esteem you don't have any "fight" left in you so you don't feel angry you just feel hurt.

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