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writes:hi. when me and my girlfriend get horny and talk about having sex, the last few times she always mentions using her toy and watching porn. should i be worried that she doesnt find me attractive anymore or any good in bed that she needs this extra visual and physical stimulation?for example her last text was i cant wait for tonight,i fancy porn, my toy and ur c**k! perfect night!im 23, good looking and in good shape and wev only been going out for 4 months. but im worried. am i not enough?
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reader, Yos  +, writes (11 November 2009):
 Some people have issues with porn in relationships, others don't. It's almost impossible to say whether it's objectively ok, it's about whether you both are ok with it or not. Sounds like you might differ on this issue.
Personally I don't approve of porn in relationships. I could give a lot of reasons, but in the end I just think can distract you from the person you are with. For a while now I've abstained from porn (when in a relationship), and it feels like our sex and intimacy have improved. It's not the only reason, but I think i'm better off without it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionshouldnt i be visual stimulation enough for her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwhat about the porn??
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2009): I have seen this go both ways- it can be a plus or a deal killer. If you guys have different rhythms or positions that get you off then it can be a pain to have to modify your stroke at the last minute to help her orgasm and screw up yours. In that case it is nice to have the toy there as a back up plan so that you can bone down the way you like and then use the toy on her. But if she ends up disinterested in your gentiles then it kind of kills the whole deal. For instance, if you ever became uninterested in your gf's breasts then you know thing have run their course. Same deal with her and your junk. My advice is rely on the toy being there and start boning down more the way you like and see what develops. Maybe things will get a lot better, or maybe you'll find out you arent ultimately comfortable with this set up. Either way you'll know.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 November 2009): Oh come on, don't be jealous of technology you guys..it's only gonna get better LOL. Toys provide some versatility and they are always there when no guy is around, so a girl gets attached to the darn thing. Believe me is no reflection of your love-making skills... LOL-g
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