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anonymous
writes:I have recently felt concerned about my relationship with my sister. She is younger than me (2 years), a doctor, and engaged to a good looking man who adores her. I am a real estage agent, really enjoy my job etc, and very happy with my life in general. However, for some reason, lately, i increasingly feel jealousy towards my sister, even though i would never want to swap my life for hers! This feeling is strange, as i am happy in my own life. I just dont feel inclined to arrange to do things with my sister, or spend time with her for some reason. Does anyone have any ideas as to ways i could perhaps work toward feeling closer to my sister, and not feel jealous of her success? I am totally happy with the way things are in my own life, why does my sub-concious have to feel this way towards her?Id really appreciate your feedback. X
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reader, identifiable  +, writes (24 June 2009):
 The fact you mention she your younger sister seems to strike me in the sense that you older than her are suppose to be more successful and n a comiting relationship, it isnt the gritty details of your sister but the idea of her life coming together before yours, and even though your happy, it isnt suppose to happen i belive you believe deep down sub concious or whatever. Confronting it may make it go away but understanding people are different and life journeys may help you be just a little more content with her . Godd luck x
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (24 June 2009):
 Jealousy stems from low self-esteem. Maybe you aren't as satisfied with your life as you seem to think?
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (24 June 2009):
 Hi there,
I completely agree with Kelly, you just need to grit your teeth and make that phone call. You won't get anywhere just sitting around thinking about it! You need to take initiation and call her, make a play date for lunch or shopping or a movie or a manicure or a baseball game. You're her sister and I know she'd love going out with you.
You may be a little jealous, but she has probably spent her whole life jealous of YOU. Maybe she's even envious of your life now! You've got a great career, you're independent, you're happy. Maybe she wishes she could be as happy as you are. Does your sister have a successful career, or is she just married to a guy who is successful?
Regardless, she's your sister and it's important that you keep tight with her. And, things in her life are probably not as picturesque as you imagine they are. So bite down and pick up that phone, you will regret it if you end up not speaking for years over petty jealousy. Not that your feelings are petty, but if they ruin a good sisterly relationship, they'll seem petty!
Good luck!
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reader, kellyxxx +, writes (24 June 2009):
 Just take the plunge and invite her out for lunch! Its not helping you get closer to her by just sitting back and dwelling on these feelings that you have. X
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