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writes:I'm hoping someone can help me..My boyfriend's cousin has come to stay with him for 2 weeks from another country and I wont be seeing him at all in this time and I'm finding this really hard because i'm quite an emotional person. I see him alot and I'm not used to being away from him for so long.But the thing is I'm feeling very jealous of him being with his cousin and spending time with her, I dont even know why :( His cousin is a little bit older than my boyfriend but closer to his age than I am. I'm a year or so younger than him.I dont know why but everytime I think about it, it makes me want to cry.I trust him and I know nothing would be going on between them but the fact that they are sharing a room bothers ALOT. :SCan anybody tell me why I'm feeling like this?Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 August 2009): Is his cousin an attractive girl? If so, that may be why you're feeling jealous. You feel threatened by the fact that he's sharing a room with an attractive girl. Even if she's not good-looking, you still feel threatened by another woman spending so much time with your BF. I think you should tell him that it bothers you a lot that they're sharing a room, and ask him doesn't he think that's weird that they're sleeping in the same room. Is there more than one bed in that room? Tell him you're uncomfortable with this arrangement, and if there's something going on between him and his cousin, you need to know about it. I'd also ask why he's spending so much time with her and not with you, or at least not including you in the time he spends with her. Post back here after you've talked to him and let us know what he said and how he reacted to these questions.
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reader, shmshn  +, writes (4 August 2009):
They are just cousins.. even if they are really close he probably views her as a sister and not as anything more. If he has the same types of feelings for his cousin that he does for you then it may be time to leave the relationship for reasons other than just not seeing him for 2 weeks, heh.You have nothing to worry about, you may be feeling this way because you're insecure. Be confident in yourself and know that your boyfriend will probably missing you just as much as you miss him. Let him enjoy his time with his cousin or he may resent you as she is his family that he probably does not see often.
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