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writes:Well it starts off like this, Im a married woman of 6years and I have been with my husband for a total of 10years. So my reason for submitting this letter is because I have been involved with this man for over 13 years. I was in a short but sweet relationship with him and he and I concieved a child which I did loose. However we ending our relationship because he couldnt seem to want to be with just one woman. Well after i met my husband and got to know some of his friends he was one of them... I WAS SO IN TOTAL SHOCK... Wll here it is 13years later and im still having sex with this man and I dont know what it is and why I cant leave him alone. At first I felt really bad because I knew what I was doing was REALLY REALLY WRONG. But now I just do it and I dont feel bad after I do it now. Let me tell you this I love my husband dearly but it is something about this man I just cant knock. He is like my drug of choice and I know I really shouldnt be with him but when he calls me I just run like a crazy child. He dos tings for me thatI know I shouldnt accept because Im married. But he gave memy first child and now that we both are married we know that we gave each other something that NO One else has. We oth have children now and we live in the same state but different towns. We are like 3hour away from each other. So I just want to know HOW DO I STOP DOING THIS WITH THIS MAN. We love each other but I do know at the end of the day i would never leave my husband for him. ALSO WHY DO I KEEP RUNNING BACK TO HIM.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2011): i know what its like to be inlove with two men at the same time. one was the safety blanket and the other was the fantasy. in the end the fantasy will fade and you will be left with your marriage, or whats left of it.
your conscience has been seered of emotions towards this fling, thats why you dont feel bad about it. u want it so bad that you dont care who gets hurt in the process. if your husband ever found out what was going on he would be crushed. and you will never be happy enough with your husband as long as you are stringing this sex toy around. the guy on the outside of my marriage .. he was never intending on leaving his woman for me, and i didnt expect him to. but it hurt knowing that...
you are going to destroy your husband and family when it finally surfaces. think of your child. get out of the fantasy! let your husband be all that you need. direct your energy towards him and fall deeply in love with him instead of running like a school girl to this forbidden love. its not real.. the man waiting at home for you while you are out screwing around is the reality.
and also think about how ugly divorce is... what your child will hve to go thru. courts do not shine happily on unfaithful women...
pleez make the right choice!
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reader, Serpico +, writes (7 January 2011):
You are running back to him because you are weak and have no respect for your husband or your marriage.
Sorry - I know you were probably looking for comforting words justifying your behavior. Problem is you dont deserve them, the man you are cheating on does.
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reader, Lotsalove. +, writes (6 January 2011):
 Well my sister was in the exact same situation as you, and got found out about 2 weeks ago. It was DRAMA. It was painful. It was messy.
You are playing with fire, and you know this. And one day you ARE going to get burnt. How would you feel if you thought you were in a faithful marriage, but your husband was sleeping with another woman, another married woman at that! The fact you have a child together doesn't mean anything. Yes you still have a connection because of that child and may see each other from time to time, but it's wrong. AND it's been going on for 13 years??? WOW. You are heartless.
I dont want to point fingers, but i've just come out of a 2 year relationship with a guy who was with another woman for the whole time. I have no time for cheaters, its low and its just selfish. Pick which man you want and be with him, and leave the other, even if that is your husband. He deserves to be happy and so does the other man's wife.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2011): Be an adult. You know the difference between right and wrong, yet you choose wrong everytime. Do your husband a favor, and leave him, since like the guy you're banging on the side, you can't seem to be with just one person. At least give your husband a fighting chance to be happy with someone who loves and respects him. And no, you don't love your husband. If you did, you wouldn't be spreading your legs for some other man.
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