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writes:Hi all!This has been getting me down recently,I'm tall for my age (1.65m) and I have boobs etc.and I'm only 11. I am really clever (This is sounding really big headed) and I am blond, blue eyes, ok skin and I take the train. Yet I am being badly bullied and no one seems to like especialy this one girl who teases me for being cleverer than her.I don't like it but changing shcools is out of the question.Also, one of my friends (of whom there are few) may be leaving soon and I've known her for 2 years and I really like her and she is like me, really clever, but she gets admired for it. What am I doing wrong, I don't show off, I don't put my hand up in everything when I know the answer etc, I just seem to be better at everything.CheersMiss. Anon.PS. I went to private B4 i came to this Grammar Shcool.
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reader, Andy00 +, writes (18 December 2007):
 Yes, being mean would make you just as bad. BUT so would spreading rumors. You wouldn't like rumors spread around about you, so this should tell you that that isn't the way to be.
Tell the truth to your teachers remains my advice. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi, thanks for the advice.
Oh, btw, I have already started secondary I just happen to still be 11.
I tried to spread rumours about her but people just called me a lier and I won't be mean to her coz doesn't that mean I'm just as bad as she is?
Gtg,
Miss Anon.
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reader, Andy00 +, writes (18 December 2007):
You have done nothing wrong to be bullied. Try and hold on to that thought. You have done nothing to deserve this.
Take a look at my picture at the top of this thing. Yep, that's me! And I've looked like that since I entered the last 3 years at secondary school. I looked like nobody else in school and I was bullied for it at times. Thankfully I was old enough then to not let it bother me. But there was one circumstance where I was bullied and things were too much for me to take on my own.
It all started when I looked at somebody... Yes, you heard me. I was sat with a friend, this idiot bully walks by with one of his equally stupid friends, I glance up and he goes "What' you lookin' at?" I back-chatted, words were exchanged, and then finally they came over. I wasn't intimidated by them. In fact, while one of them was giving me lip, I proceeded to push him backwards, and he fell right into a bush. A beautiful moment. Unfortunately, soon after, I got a push, and then a mild jab to the nose from his friend, and which case, I bared my teeth and chased him. Unfortunately I never caught him, and it's just as well, because he would have been down on has backside if I had caught him.
Unfortunately, later that day, I found out that I had been parking my bike next to theirs for some time, so I got another bit of chatting from them later that day on the way home (I had a better bike than him anyway :p). Sadly, this continued, and would usually happen atleast once a week for a few months. On one occasion I was walking into school with my bike, in the proper way, and they rode past and each whacked me over the head. I did nothing, I thought "Leave it, they aren't worth it" and then I heard his friend say to him "He just called you a..." I didn't hear what he said, but I promise you, I said nothing. This caused an encounter rather like the first.
Things got to breaking point after yet another encounter with them after school. I was going to an after school club that evening, so I told my friends about it, getting upset with frustration. I left my bike with theirs, unlocked while I was indoors. When I came out, it was gone. I couldn't believe it.
Don't worry, this is where I'm getting to the point to all of this :)
So, telling my dad about my particularly bad afternoon, as I had many times before, ignoring his advice to "hit each of them good and hard on the nose" (thanks, dad). He scheduled a meeting with one of the main teachers. We went in, I identified the boys who were giving me trouble, checked the CCTV for the bike thief (It turned out to be unrelated! How about that?) and that was it. I never had a problem in that bike shed ever again. The friend of the bully must have been on a last warning before all this, because I believe he was thrown out of school (BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!! :D), whereas the main bully never bothered me again. I'm sure he gave me the odd dirty look in and outside of school, but he never laid a finger on me.
So, to sum it all up; I would talk to your parents about this straight away if you haven't already. Don't suffer in silence, when your parents will no doubt always listen to you when you need to be heard. As well as the school. See if you can arrange something with the school, and make them see to it that if anybody hassles you again, there will be consequences.
It's terrible that sometimes the system fails, but they can't be held responsible if you don't bring it to their attention, so make sure you do! I do hope this has helped. I've tried to make it as light hearted as possible, because I know that getting bullied isn't fun. Good luck though, and if you need help from any of us, you know we are here.
Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2007): You didn't say if it was girls or boys bullying you? It sounds like everyone jumping of the wagon to taking the mick out of you. You're in primary school so you will be in secondary school soon, that means you won't see most of these people again. Tell the teacher, seriously I was bullied at 12 and had the whole class aginst me, they spread rumours and bla bla. But they should grow out of it, your smart so what? be proud of it, youre gonna have a great job and their not! youre going to get the last laugh in the end
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reader, rosesarerainbow  +, writes (18 December 2007):
You sound a LOT like me at age 11. I was a frizzy-haired, short girl who got amazing marks in school but only had a few close friends. I am clever too, and I got bullied SO much.
You know what? It eventually goes away. I know it's hurting right now, but soon you will be laughing in these people's faces. Why? Because you'll be on the road to a great career and a happy life, while they'll be wondering what happened to their high school glory days.
Give this chick a taste of her own medicine. Spread a rumor about HER for a change.
And trust me...in college/university, the clever girls have the most fun, and get the BEST guys. : )
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2007): I have one word for you.
Jealousy.
Thats all these bulling gits are. Jealous.
Because when they have to whore themselves out to get men, you'll just have to look at a bloke to have him wrapped around your little finger.
So gets some people together and beat the snot out of this little bitch and warn her that you'll spread the rumour of her being beaten up by a WEAKLING around.
Or just start a rumour that she's gay and that you saw her snogging some girl from another school.
You're clever you'll think of something.
Flynn 24
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