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36-40,
*hatsTrueLove?
writes:Why am I crying over spilled milk???Its been several months since my ex broke up with me, and I'm finally reaching a point where I know what she did to me was wrong, and that if she asked to get back with me, i think i could stay strong and not go back to her. I know it would be tough, and is easier said than done, but I really understand that i'm better than how she treated me. Plus, it could/would never be the same as how it use to be. With that in mind though, how come I'm still thinkin of her so much, and every once and a while even dreaming of her. It hurts and makes me tear up once in a while of what we had and what we could of had. Why? Why am i crying over spilled milk???
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reader, sexi suga  +, writes (18 July 2008):
its pretty obv that getting over someone that has been such a big part of your life will be hard regardless of it being an ex or a best friend...
the initial stage is bitterness and hatered for the way in which they treated you and then comes the next stage of self pity, the idea of allowing you to be treated that way makes you feel like a fool thats how it worked for me... however i say what doesnt kill you makes you stronger and it really does you learn so much about yourself and what your own belife is... but this is the only way forward and it may seem hard at first as it was always a routine when that person was in ypur life and now you are in a state that isnt the same... however this gives you the time to explore your character further and to learn about what you own capabilities are in life...
i say take it on the chin as an experience that made you stronger and allowed you to discover who you realy are.. forget the fact that you were together and give yourself time to get over it become more active and enjoy life as it comes... time is a healer not a cure so dont look for a cure look to be healed and once you are you can prepare yourself a cure for nxt time... always remember to think about number one though and that is ofcourse YOU :)
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (18 July 2008):
It's hard to get over an Ex, so you have to not give yourself time to think about it.
Find something else to focus your thoughts on. Get a new hobby or look for a better job, get an evening class or go out with your mates more. Make a giant to do list of things you want to do by the end of the year and get cracking.
You are getting over her slowly as you said, so just keep going and you'll get there.
Good Luck!! xx
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