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writes:Ok I'm almost 19 and I don't need someone but something has been bugging me.First of all I'm not attractive especially compared to my friends. When I used to hang out with guys I was like one of them. Seriously, they seemed to think I was one of them so I never expected to be asked out or liked. But my confusion always comes when I am asked for sex.. I am a tom boy with an unattractive body who acts like a guy and the guys come for me for sex.I was wondering if maybe they thought I was easy...I'm just confused. My friends have sex and are gorgeous why don't they bug them instead?Even strangers ask me...People I never heard about text me for it.that happened twice and im a virgin with nothing on me to seem like i would want to.
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reader, Gabrielle Stoker +, writes (27 June 2011):
 Well first of all you may be more attractive than you think. Maybe not devastatingly gorgeous - few people actually hit the genetic jackpot on that - but definitely attractive enough to be propositioned.
Secondly, there's probably a strong rumor going around that you're available. Maybe it's someone jealous that you get male attention as a friend, maybe it's an ex you dumped or a guy you turned down.
And finally, just keep saying NO.
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reader, LaughAlot2010 +, writes (27 June 2011):
 I would tell the guys to grow some balls and learn how to treat a girl. Simple.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2011): It sounds like somebody has made up rumors about you, i mean people texting you for sex and your a virgin !!
Somebody is obviously very spiteful and probably jealous of you. Try to ignore it until it dies down and they get bored of getting nowhere.
Also dont put yourself down, Just because you have good looking friends and your a tom boy, it doesn't make you any less attractive than them just because your not dolled up to the nines, beauty is skin deep and maybe some of the guys that are hitting on you are not into the whole dolly manolly bird look. But point taken, you don't want to be getting that kind of attention (men asking you for sex either), maybe try hanging out in some new places and with different friends and just see if things change and the rumours die down. It might be down to the company your keeping best of luck :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 June 2011): Do you have any enemies? Maybe somebody started some mean rumors about you which makes guys think you are easy? It seems very strange that people, even strangers would ask you for sex. Things like that don't happen very often. Even when guys are after a certain girl only for sex, they don't say it out loud, they ask her out first.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (26 June 2011):
 They probably think you might be easy. Guys don't often go for the attractive girls because they don't think they'll stand a chance, ironically. Another point is that as you are like one of the guys they think it is easier to talk to you, while it is scary to talk to an attractive girl that might not be as easy going. Most of all it comes down to your attitude, if you're a friendly easy going person it's easier to feel comfortable about and ask such a thing. It's got less to do with looks and more to do with how you act. If a girl is pretty, but acts like a snob, hardly anyone will want to talk to her, let alone risk asking for sex.
Just keep saying no, you deserve better than a guy who just wants an easy shag.
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reader, wiseoldman  +, writes (26 June 2011):
Boyband members are carefully chosen to look young and androgynous and years are knocked off their 'stage ages' to appeal to the prepubescent/barely adolescent girls whom the record producers are targeting ss a fanbase. That way there's nothing too grown up or adult to frighten the inexperienced.
Adolescent boys, while they might SAY they really love stripper/pornstar types, are for the most part intimidated and scared to death of them- too different and exotic. If a real one turned up in the flesh, they'd have no idea of what to do except babble feebly and run away. So they feel at ease with you, whom they consider a female 'one of the boys'.
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