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writes:i would like your help... i'm 17. my boyfriend says that he loves me but then he asked me for time to think about us cuz he says that we're doing same things and he's confused so we agreed that we won't talk to each other for 2 days.. we're dating since i was 15 years old.. so my question is: Does he loves me and If yes why would he need time, i don't need time to think?! Reply to this Question
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reader, Blue_Angel0316  +, writes (7 January 2009):
 When we grow within a relationship things take changes as the relationship progressess. At this time he could be confused about wanting to be with someone new or pehaps he is trying to figure out what kind of love he feels for you. Love usually starts slow and grows in stages to a very mature form of love. One that can be serious and involve thoughts of marriage. Sometimes love grows but never reaches this capacity but remains like the love of a good friend. If he says he loves you then it most likey is so but it may not be the love you expect. Perhaps he is confused about that and wants to be sure before everything continues as it is.
As I mentioned before he could be also drawn to someone else and that is causing him to be confused about how he feels about you. Hopefully he is only worried about he relationship you two have and is a bit concerned on how to continue. He could be considering making things more permanent or he could be thinking along the lines of splitting up. Unfortunantly you will have to allow him his space and the time he needs to get his thoughts together. It's his right to take the time before he makes a decision on whatever he does. We don't always understand about this hon but men don't like being pressured so we have to stand back and give them space now and then.
Women can give love more freely and openly, where as men are less likely to give the same kind of love so freely and openly. Most of the time that real love comes slowly and they would about rather croak than say it!*LOL* It's just a man's way. Don't ya just love 'em? *-) I suggest you back off and let him have his time. Stay calm and when he gives you the ok you can work on any problems after the storm. I am most hopeful that there is no serious problems and that you can know the LOVE that GOD would have you find.
DON'T LET THE SUN GO DOWN WITHOUT PRAYER AND MAY YOU RISE IN THE MORNING AND FIND IT SHINGING BRIGHT IN HIS LOVE. KNOW THAT WHATEVER IS GOING ON WITH YOUR BOYFRIEND THAT GOD WILL BE THERE TO SEE YOU THRU.
God bless,
Blue_Angel
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