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writes:I have been with her for 10 months. They haven't been easy. She has broken up with me on 5 occasions. The last time was about 2 months ago. She said she felt like she needed to be single and try to make it on her own. We got back together as usual a week later. Now she claims she knows what she wants etc. I don't really trust her anymore because she has hurt me so many times. Last night she cried about her father dying 3 years ago, and cried about her mixed up family. I feel she definitely has some emotional problems that she hasn't dealt with. I have been through a lot too in my life, especially at the hands of her mixed feelings about our relationship. I'm not sure I should stick around to try and help her heal all of her emotional wounds. Also, I sometimes wonder if the tears, clinging and neediness is just a form of manipulation. I mean seriously people, who wants to be single and have someone out of their life one day, but wants to buy a house, have kids with you a few weeks later?She is planning on going to a grief counsellor for the death of her father. But, I think she needs help with more than that. She is obsessed with her looks, and her body. Going to the gym everyday, expecting me to join too. I feel like I am being smothered. The amazing thing is she appears so stable and grounded to everyone else. Her friends, co-workers. Full of life and personable, outgoing. Then with me she is emotional, constantly hanging off me, desperate for attention, kissing, hugging all the time. I feel worn out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2008): It sounds like she is a pain in the arse. You sure you want this headache?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2008): Ask oldersister's got it summed up quite nicely. If I were you I wouldn't consider settling down with this one unless her arse stops pointing downwards when she stands up.
There are other women out there that don't come along with a whole shipload of emotional and other problems. You'd do better to go and look for one of them rather than try to sort this one out. She sounds like a potential Bunny Boiler to me.
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