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writes:ok, my question may be kinda silly but maybe fresh eyes can make sense of it. My Newly seperated husband (living with someone at the moment but not divorced from me) has been going on his webcam during our conversations on the computer and making an innocent conversation not so innocent. He brings up meeting at a hotel for sex when i am in town next (i moved 3 hours away from him when he left) I summed it up to he was all talk no action but im not quite sure anymore. Im not sure if his new girlfriend is maybe not as sexual as we used to be and hes coming to me for a "fix" or if he just misses what we had. I also question if i decide to meet up with him, is it wrong of me to decide to have sex with him? It feels like cheating but i AM his wife. I sometimes wonder what if the things he is doing on the computer is cheating as well?
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reader, eyeswideopen  +, writes (25 April 2008):
 Your soon-to-be-ex husband is a real piece of work. Be glad you are getting rid of him. Don't allow him to use you like this. Throw the slug back to the slime pit he's created and wash your hands of him once and for all. That's how my fresh eyes see it.
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reader, Minelisse  +, writes (24 April 2008):
 Hello.. been there not done that.
My now ex husband used to do that when we separated and it continued after we were divorced. He still makes those approaches although he is married to someone else.
The truth is you need to know your motivations. Why would you have sex with someone who left you and is currently living with someone else whilst he is still married to you? What do you feel when he makes those types of advances towards you? Does is make you feel special? Do you miss him? Was it really that good to begin with and, if it was, why are you separated right now?
Even if sex was awesome between the two of you he has moved on and committed himself to someone else right now.
You have no way of knowing his motivations but you can certainly discover yours and decide what is best for YOU. Being with someone who is sharing his life and bed with someone else is disrespecting her and most of all yourself. You've been there... do you really need to be back?
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