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writes:Hello all. Here goes: I'm a 37 year-old woman who's been dating a "separated" man (he's 41) for 8 months now. He has 2 minor children (ages 5 and 7) and has been married for 8 years. He lives alone. She lives w/another man. I know it sounds insane (probably because it is!) but I've been hearing about the "divorce" for 8 months. He and his wife have FILLED OUT the paperwork and just need to have it notarized, then filed. But for the past 2 months the paperwork's just been "sitting."He tells me that he's in love w/me. I DO feel that he does love me. He does show it. BUT...his wife calls him often to complain about her re/ship w/the man she's currently with. Calls him to meet her to "talk about the kids." Calls him when she's out of state to...again...complain about her crappy life. And he listens. ??!!The other day he had his kids. They wanted to stop by their mom's house to see their dog. She wasn't home. Neither was her "man." So...we went over to their home and he he spent about a half hour looking through her cd's and her stuff. Who thinks that I'm being played for a FOOL?Thanks much!AD Reply to this Question
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reader, LouLee  +, writes (30 December 2007):
 I think that he may still have feelings for her but does love you at the same time.....hence him looking through her cd's, probably brings back memories. Although listening to her moan bout her life and that could just be him feeling sorry for her and doesnt want to cause any arguments because of his kids. Basically it's your decision if you want to talk to him about this. x
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reader, Landie  +, writes (30 December 2007):
 To a certain point you are being played. Sounds like he might be going through a devorce but its not very clear cos if somebody wanted to be devorced so badly then they would not allow the paper work to sit for so long.
You should sit down with him and have a conversation and find out where your relationship is going. Its unfair to you if he is leading you on but I don't think he is.
Most important is to talk to him, sit him down and do it as soon as possible.
Good luck
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reader, robynnex +, writes (30 December 2007):
 Heyy .
i dont think your being played either.!
i think he's a little bit confused about his feelings about his ex . Im sure he does love you alot. But maybe he still has some feelings for her. Or maybe there just verry close fiends .
I think you should speak to him. And get him to tell his ex wife to stop calling and moaning about her
relationships because he isnt with her anymore its not his problem. tell him its makign you uncomfortable. And the thing about the cd's maybe he was just being nosey :).
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