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writes:Long story short, I dated this guy for a year and a half he was my first love and we had a great relationship in the start. I devoted all my time to him and did everything i possibly could to make him happy. He started to treat me like crap and started doing shady things such as ignoring me, never wanting to hang out, talking inappropriately to other girls, and overall just not giving me any respect. I ended the relationship several times and every time he came back and i took him back so easily. I ended up losing my once always happy and smiling outgoing self, and became majorly depressed because of the emotional abuse he was putting me through. Finally I ended it for what i thought would be for good.He got a new girlfriend and moved on way faster than I had. I slowly took time to rebuild myself back up to the once happy strong girl that I was before i met him. After i thought i was finally over him 4 months later i get a call from him asking to meet up because he really needs someone to talk to. I thought he needed help with his current relationship and i've always been there for him so i decided to meet up with him, he ended up telling me that he was willing to do whatever he could to get another chance with me. Two hours later i agreed to give him a week to prove himself to me. He broke up with his gf and began to rebuild things back up with me.The thing is though his now ex gf just moved away to college and so he never ever gets to see her, also he just lost his license so theres no way for him to even go visit her. He told me that he wasn't sure who he wanted to be with so i told him i was just gonna help him focus on her and that i was done with this back and forth bs. He freaked out and thought i was leaving him bc he really wanted to be with me. His ex messaged me and told me how he was texting her asking her for makeup sex and never told her we even hung out when he told me he did. I texted him told him i was done and he started sending me 15 texts apologizing and begging to meet up, he even had his mom text me and his sister call me. I agreed to meet up and he apologized and said it was a huge mistake.Hes been doing great so far but i also met this other guy who goes to a college 3 hours away but i'm really starting to like him and i'm scared to give up on something new for something old that may just result to him becoming the mind manipulator that he once was? But i'm also scared to give up on my ex because of how much hes changed and how he has been hanging out with me everyday the past week and including me in everything which hes never done before and leave that for something new that may not work out. What should i do?! Sorry that this is soo long!
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (17 September 2010):
If you can't choose, then both guys are not right for you. You shouldn't date either guy. And certainly not the ex.
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reader, KingOfThron  +, writes (17 September 2010):
 Hey!
RUN as as fast as you can from this ex of your! dont even think about takgin him back this guy is a player and is only going to want what he dont have, dont even think about this old guy and bing afrade of being alone you said so your self your become stgon again you REALLY dont need this guy brakgin you down again and leaving for som eother girl again!
even if this new guy dont work out make yoru self happy and then bring people into your life, you dont need a guy to make you completly happy nor do a guy need a girl to make them compltly happy, ya its hard at first but when its over you will be so much better off, look how you started to get stong after 4 months!
this guy is bad for you i can tell, he is playing the feld and your getting hurt in the mid game, a guy like that dont change that fast that young =[ just dont take him back your still in school put time into yoru self and thing YOU like to do and you'll find an amazing guy, Promise =]
if you need/ have any more questions will be glad to help just ask!
Hope this helped!
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