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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hey everyone, So i was with this guy for 3 months and he got close with my best friend. Anyways I found out that my boyfriend cheated on me so i broke up with him. The very first person i told about this was my best friend. I came crying to her and she was there to help. I stopped talking to my ex and since she is my best friend i expect her to stop as well. She didn't though, instead she tells him "i love you bff"i told her that i didn't like her talking to my ex not because of jealousy but because she should be on my side and stop talking to him. Instead of her understanding she got mad at me and i don't know what i should do ?? i think i should be mad and not her. So who is right....me or her ?? Thanks
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reader, old-spinstah  +, writes (8 November 2009):
I'm afraid I think you're friend has more of a point. You can choose you friends but you can't choose your friend's friends.
I know it's much easier if, after a break-up, everybody you care about also hates the ex and wants to bitch about them too but it doesn't always turn out like that.
You can't dictate who your best friend is allowed to talk to, even if it you find it painful.
Take care, you won't feel this bad forever
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reader, Denizen +, writes (8 November 2009):
 At your age you will probably have quite a few boyfriends before you settle for one. Since you weren't going out with him your friend probably thought he was up for grabs. This can be hurtful. I would give her some space for a while and hang with some of your other mates. Eventually she too will probably be on the market again so you two might get back as friends. I hope so. Don't worry it will work out fine.
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