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writes:I´ve just been feeling sad about my appearance lately.As a child, I was very early to develop (by the standards of the times I lived in). when I was ten, I suffered from severe acne... and now my face is horribly scarred. My parents were always making comments like, ¨Your face is full of blackheads because you don´t wash it,¨ and it just killed me because I washed my face religiously and I used the medicines the dermatologists prescribed religiously and the acne just got worse. Other kids didn´t even take baths, and they all looked perfect. I don´t mean a pockmark or two. I mean, my skin resembles ground up hamburger meat. I can´t look in the mirror without cringing. I knew I was unattractive, but to come home to parents who constantly threw that in my face, and on top of everything, blamed me for it, just killed me. I would like to have a boyfriend... I have so many wonderful things going on in my life for which I am grateful but I see couples walking hand in hand and the void inside me opens up and starts hurting all over again, like an old wound. When i see couples, i think of how much I would like to share my life. I would like to have a kind man hold me and cherish me and tell me that I´m beautiful... but I look at the ugly scars and I feel like that is just delusional. My own relatives have told me I´m ugly. Everyone has physical defects, but I am so sick and tired of seeing the scars when I look in the mirror. I want so badly to be pretty. I don´t want to wear makeup... I want soft, smooth skin of my own. Just like everyone else. I know there are worse things, but lately, I have been feeling very sad about my appearance. I´ve been to a series of dermatologists, none of whom were any help at all. There are some things you have to accept, but I have tried and I can´t accept this. I would gladly give ten years off my life just to be average looking. I´m not exaggerating... I would do anything to have normal skin like others have. I realize that I come across as shallow, but after all these years of putting up with horrible skin, I am desperate. Like I said, I realize that everyone has physical defects, but is going to want me like this?
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reader, Sweety Pie  +, writes (9 December 2009):
 Well, theres ways of helping these things, but there pretty extreme, chemical skin peels and stuff.
I think you need to accept you for who you are. If your confident, others will look past your skin. Beauty is only skin deep as they say...
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2009): Someone who is a great person, some of the greatest there can be, who is not shallow and who cares about many things but one to judge a person by.. thats the one who'll love you. It might take some time to find, thats the sad part. But it's also all I can say. Im pretty sure you can look around and find people just as flawed as you, or people worse looking (no offense really) and they still have partners. Seriously obese people get married too. Point is: there's lots of people out there who don't care about looks as much as they value everything else. And to someone you are the most beautiful of all.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (9 December 2009):
Hello again.
I think you got a fair few suggestions last time on how to boost your self esteem.
I think the fact you are back here again suggests that this goes deeper than dearcupid can go.
Go and talk to your doctor. You are clearly depressed and you need help.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, maria-wolf1 +, writes (9 December 2009):
wow that was intense... I know eactly how you feel, people dont understand unless they going through or went through it themselfs... ehrm I had very bad skin myself and because i use to pick and poke at my acne it left my face scared, after trying everything, I decided to try a chemical peel and it really worked my whole face is even lighter, it really worked for me and im going for another 1 because I want my face flawless, but it made a huge diffrence, you should try it....
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 December 2009): have you tried using anti-scar creams/oils? for example Bio oil. i cant gaurantee anything but it might work. be careful though and if in doubt ask for help from a proffessional as to what products to use. some of these products can infact make the situation worse. hope i helped a little x
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