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writes:I decided to ask this question after receiving a reply on here from another user talking about after two years of marriage she is no longer happy with her guy -I've never really lasted much longer than 2 years with any one guy either. Anyone out there who is actually happy and in a long term relationship? (2+ years) Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 February 2009): I have been married 26 years, good times bad times still in love, still have good sex,infact the older I get the more I want to experience with the person I love, have loved and will always love in different ways, still friends,together in total 28 years, soul mates,married very very young, had kids,still laugh still cry, still argue still make up. Is that not what real life is all about.I know loads of other couples in the same position so yes it does work for loads of couples.Some people though are never happy with the simple things in life and will always look for bigger, better and even bigger challenges, but sometimes that can lead to lotsa heartbreak and regrets.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 February 2009): i have been with my boyfriend since i was 15, he was 16. we're still very much in love after 13 wonderful years! i know we are very lucky! you will find someone some day it will last for more then 2 years. good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 February 2009): I was married to my first wife for 11 years and it was good for about half of those. My current wife was married to her first husband for 6 years and the first 3 or 4 were good. We started dating at the ages of 34 and have been together for nearly 30 years now and married for over 23 of those. We have had some ups and downs in the middle years, but neither one of us ever thought of ending the marriage or being with someone else. Well, OK, maybe in fantasy. :)
We are now both in our early 60s (almost middle) and still have an active sex life and love each other like we did when first married and better than those middle years. We also have many common interests and have always also been best friends. When the love started to wane a bit in the middle years, we still enjoyed doing everything together. That probably kept us from thinking about separating.
No relationship will ever be perfect. There will be problems, arguments and feelings of hurt at times. If a person realizes that and realizes that a good relationship sometimes takes work then they will find that the vast majority of time the relationship will be a very happy one and they will work through the bad parts and solve the problems.
It often takes men and women many years to realize what it also took my wife and I to discover. We need time to mature and solve our own relationship faults so that we can keep a good relationship going. It also takes time and more than a couple of partners to really know what one wants in a permanent partner. Some people luck out with their high school sweetheart and stay with them for life, but I think this is not the normal case. Give yourself time to learn what is important to you in a relationship and realize that there will be things that you don't like about the other person. My wife and I don't like every habit that the other has, but we dwell on the important things that we are happy with and think less about the things that we don't like about the other.
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (14 February 2009):
 I'm going on year 4, and we're very happy. We're extremely compatible, and manage to just get along beautifully. It's a lucky situation, but just great for us!
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 February 2009): If it is based solely on physical attraction, I would say it could fizzle after 2 years...but true love, can last a lifetime!
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (14 February 2009):
Scientists reckon that the every day bog standard feeling of love lasts for 3 years on average.
In cave man times this would be just long enough to raise a child so its on its feet and running with the rest of the pack and then you'd both move on.
However they did find examples of couples who did have what appeared to be "true love" in that they were still utterly in love after decades.
I'm 5 years in and going strong with my hubbie.
Since you are in your early 20's I'd say you've just not found the right one yet. And since you've only been an adult for a couple of years, really are you that surprised that you have not yet met the love of your life?
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (14 February 2009):
 five years and two of them married, we've had our ups and downs but still very much in love.
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