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writes:So I have been in a relationship with a gal for over 2 years. we agrued alot. till 2 months ago I stopped. after nearly 5 weeks of not fighting or arguing with her, she decided its over...My heart feels broken. Had dreams of mairrage ect.. I believe strongly in God. I have prayed on this. And he tells me to trust her and wait... the other day (because we live together.) i noticed phone numbers on our caller id. then yesterday she added a guy on face book... he has his phone number listed as the same one calling our place... My ex says she is not talking ot guys. I feel God says to trust her. and my friends all think i should leave.anyone have any ideas?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2010): This isn't about God, or friends. Don't make excuses for your own feelings.Deeply religious people tend to do that because being able to pin things on a god or a devil or an outside force is easier than to have to deal with things internally.So instead of helping yourself, instead of taking the life you believe your god has given you and making the best of it you can, you sit there and wait for guidance.Let me tell you something, I don't know if a god or gods of any kind exist now, have ever existed, or ever will exist, all I know is you do yourself a great disservice by waiting. There are 6 billion other humans out there...If you believe in God, then you also believe he gave you free will to do with your life as you please. This means he/she is not going to help you or give messages or any of that. He/she trusted you to be able to live your life for yourself and take his/her advice and teachings and use them wisely.Yes. You should leave. Move on. Live. Vivre.Love will not come to you. You must seek IT out.Flynn 24
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (22 May 2010):
 Never trust anyone except God. He will never turn His back on you .
The thing about God is not to have blind faith. Open your eyes and use your brain too. God gave us a brain to think.
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reader, Ich_liebe_dich  +, writes (22 May 2010):
 In your question who you should trust, God or Friends. I would say 1st" trust your self. God is maybe somewhere, but everything is working only in reality. Friends is always around but they are not the one who will build your life. It is you" who have to decide for your self. It is you who will say yes or no for your life. If you want the real thing, i would suggest to let go of her. She can always hurt you and you always going to accept that hurt and you will always ask your self" where is the god? you will keep asking a question to the god and friends. But how long your going to depend on them? God will always guide you and friends will always be there to cry on, but still you are the one who will decide for your self. So better think and decide now before you ended to the feelings that you dont know anymore how to trust anybody, that you dont wanna trust anybody anymore because you have enough trauma. Start loving and trusting your self. Good luck..
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reader, happy24birthday +, writes (21 May 2010):
 Your friends don't have to live your life. Let go and let God. You have to completely let go of her, however, to allow God to take over. Continue to pray for guidance, as I'm sure you are, and your faith will see you through this with clarity and strength. For now all you can really do IS wait. Don't push her or the relationship.
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reader, EbonyBlossom  +, writes (21 May 2010):
 I'm agreed with Chigirl. What signs exactly is God giving you that she is still interested?
If you give up on her it's a win/win situation. If she really will want you back then either you'll be there when this happens, or you won't be with her because you'll be happy with someone else. And if she doesn't want to come back, you'll still be happy with someone else. But you have to move on if you want to be sure to avoid suffering.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (21 May 2010):
 Could it be you are not listening to God, but to the hope in your heart, the love you have for her that refuses to believe it is over? At one point in life, God might have ment for you to trust her. Or he can mean to give her time, but then that you endure that she moves on... and someday maybe comes back. It will not all go as smoothly as you are hoping for. Seek God again and see if there isn't something in small printing you overlooked. Most of the time, humans make their own destinies, and God can only guide, not lead.
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