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writes: Hi. I'm abit confused. Broke up with my ex one month ago. He said he wasnt ready to commit and we have been on for five years. I'm 33 and at that stage in my life when i wish to settle down with a family. He is also very difficult to please, and all the decisions in the relationship must always be his. He was the only voice in our relationship. But i really do love him despite and he has been pleading with me to give him another chance. Right now i have a close friend i has known me for years. I like really him and he has always shown his interest even when i was going out with my ex. Now that we broke up he expects me to consider dating him.We are very far away from each other but he makes time for me. I'm abit uncertain because not sure if i love him and we have rarely spent time together because of the distance. In other words i havent known him romatically.I have always liked him as a friend and he has been there for me over the years. My question is that should i give my ex a chance and hopes he changes or this guy. My close friend seem to be losing his patience/interest with me cos of my indecision. I feel very bad. He has always been there for me and i dont like seeing him this way. But i love my ex but dont wish to continue in a dominating relationship.I sincerely would have liked to give myself more time to think but i dont want to hurt anyone so the earlier i decide the better.can you help. please.
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reader, kellyO  +, writes (28 December 2005):
 I agree with everyone here. u need time to think and sort out what u want.
All the best.
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reader, watrbot +, writes (27 December 2005):
i agree with honey 62002- she is right on- I'm trying to pick up pieces also. and it's been 2 years.
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reader, honey_62002 +, writes (27 December 2005):
I think you need a break away from men. Get yourself back together and give yourself time to breathe and think what it is that you really want - whether it be your ex, the friend or someone completly different. I did this recently, i'm picking up the pieces of who i was before and i feel a lot better for it. I have good days and bad days as i'm sure you will do and you will change your mind about what you want quite a few times but until you are truly sure what you want...wait.
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