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writes:3 months ago I ended a 19 year relationship. For most of the 19 years I felt as if I should be grateful that my partner stuck around. He told me in various ways that I was not the type of woman he would have chosen (I was the hunter). I gave affection, told him I loved him regularly and was in love and loved him. I felt most of the time he never felt the same way.He said he showed me with the gifts, jewellary, perfume, clothes etc he bought me. He said I should understand he is not the type to shop affection etc etc. We have a 15 year old daughter who is still living with her father. Last year I lost all the weight I had gained over the years and suddenly men started noticing me. Bottom line is, I felt unfulfilled, unappreciated, unloved, unsexy, met someone wonderful and sexy who did and said the things I wanted to and needed to hear. We had an affair and finally my ex and I split up. My ex wants me back and says he will wait. He now suddenly finds me sexy and in love with me. My problem???..., my problem is I have moved in with the new person in my life, he wants to marry me, considers himself in love etc. The problem, he is 23, I am 38. I have been told I am young looking, sexy, attractive etc. But age does eventually catch up.MY problem, I need to make a choice, what should I do??? I love both of them very much, I miss my ex and my daughter, but am afraid I won't recover the sexual feeling again and things will not be the same. My current partner offers everything I need, but the age difference bothers me....
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2008): Well to be honest you have to understand that this new guy is just a new guy. He is not someone that you can or should count on for a future. Believe me i have been in this same position. I really love my husband,but want my cake and eat it too. I felt that i should stay with my husband because all we have together. This new man has not known you for 19 years. You never know if the new guy will stick around being younger in all. Good luck with all and believe me do what feels right!!! Really analyze the situation it is a big decision. You will never get over one or the other out of your mind for a long time so do it by your feelings now.
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