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writes:Hi! I'm 7mnths pregnant! Due march 18th! The 1st day of my last period was 11th june which means I ovulated 14 days afta on the 25th! My most fertile days were from the 20th june to 25th june and I had unprotected sex with my partner on 21st and unprotected sex with someone else the 26th but early hrs 27th! Who could be the father? I feel that its my partners because your egg dies 24hrs after ovulation and the 2nd person would have just missed it but I'm confused! Help!
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (12 January 2010):
You'll need a paternity test. That's the only way to be sure. And as the post says below, don't deceive. Apart from being unfair to the man, it's unfair to your child. DNA test is the only way, and you need to come clean now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2010): If you love your partner you need to tell him this baby might not be his.
If it was just a regular cheating scenario and you learned your listen I would say never tell your partner.
But if he spends the whole pregnancy thinking it's his baby, helping you, telling all his friends and family about it, then it turns out it's not; it will be ten times worse.
If you were adult enough to cheat, you should be adult enough to be honest with him.
You can't assume your partner is the father. I know you pray it is; but wouldn't you want him to tell you if it was reversed? Apologize, but tell him.
The other guy doesn't need to know unless the baby is born and the test shows it's not your partners.
I'm sorry this happened, congrats on your baby. But if you love/respect your partner you need to tell him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 January 2010): Yes, "Angzw", and recently there have been cases where the husband/partner has sued the deceitful woman, successfully, for up to 16 years' worth of expenses for raising another man's child, when discovered.
So, if you are ABSOLUTELY certain you will never get found out in the next 16 years, go ahead and fool him!
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (12 January 2010):
From your post I suspect that your partner has no idea that there was another man?
My advice is that after the baby is born you should secretly have a paternity test with the other guy to rule him out. If he is not the father then problem solved. If he is then you need to tell your partner as soon as you know. I know a lot of people will tell you to deceive your partner but imagine how unfair it would be to raise another man's child and then finding out later?
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