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writes:I Really, Really need help and advice here! So here is my problem: my girlfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years now and during that time we separated for a month. We had been having some problems and she decided we needed time to clear our minds. During that time, she hung out with one of her now "best friends" alone, and he ended up kissing her because he liked her and thought she liked him, even though he knew we were just taking a break and that she probably still liked me. Ever since then it's been somewhat hard for me to trust her again with any other guys and him. I don't like him for that fact. I think he knew we still liked each other, yet he went and did that. My girlfriend wants me to completely forget about it becase she did, and she does as if it never happened, but for me it's hard to forget about something like that, especially when she promised me not to worry about anything like that happening and then it did. The thing is I Really dislike the guy for that, yet she wants me to make an effort to try and talk to him. I really don't like being near him because I know I can't stop thinking about it when he's there too. Everytime we hang out and he's there or I know she hangs out with him it creates a problem. I don't know what to do, and she said the only option I've pretty much left her with, although she won't do it, is that we can't be together like that because what I am asking of her, which is to not hang out with him so much outside of school, is too much. I Really don't want that to happen, but I don't know what to do. I know that is unfair, but she hasn't really shown me any other way that she cares about what I think. She know's I'll get upset if she invites him somewhere when we hang out with friends, yet she still does it and wants me to try and talk to him, although she doesn't expect me to like him. It would either be that, or her hanging out with me separately and then with him, although not both of them alone, but I would rather it not be that, so I decided I would go even if he's there, even if I don't like being around him. We don't know what else to do and we don't want that to bring an end to our relationship. I really need your help and advice here, Please!
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOhh, the header of this is misleading, she wasn't the one that kissed him, he kissed her. It was a moderator's header.
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reader, Crazygirl20  +, writes (30 November 2010):
Your girlfriend shouldnt have kissed this guy but she made a mistake,this guy isnt worth ending your relationship for, you both need to talk to eachother and maybe even do something fun together like a day out or a little holiday, spend some time together, go out for dinner and in future tell eachother how you're feeling. You're not going to be friends with this guy and you dont have to but the least you can do is be civil, if hes there, say 'hello' dont just ignore him. And think to yourself, that your the lucky one, you have your girlfriend, its you that gets to be with her and see that side to her that only you get to see, not him, all he has is one meaningless kiss so you might not like him but at the end of the day its you thats better off, not him. Dont let this ruin what you and your girlfriend have because it really isnt worth it. Your girlfriend is sorry for what she's done, she cant do anything to change the past, its done but what she can do it make it up to you by being a good girlfriend. I hope it works out for you. Good luck!
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