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writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for 10 months. We've pretty much lived together for 8 of the 10. The other night during sex he called me his ex's name! He was with her for 15 yrs. But they have been split for almost 5 years. I'm so hurt and mad I can't see straight and I don't know what to think or do!
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2007): We have all done that sort of thing, don't make a big thing out of it. Just let him know that you weren't too chuffed about it when he did it, but don't kill him for it. My ex hardly dare say my name for the first 6 months because my name and his ex are so alike, and they were married for 15 years with two kids! I was ok, my bf and ex have the same first name, lucky one! Just laugh it off (to yourself and pretend to be cross with him!)
Take care and don't let this spoil what you have.
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reader, maxsteel86  +, writes (20 March 2007):
 As simple as other folks here have made it seem, I know it cant be that easy. If it was, everything would just break down to two choices, do or dont. They've been apart for 5 years now, a long time to not be calling your ex's name in bed. Ask him what in the world made him call you that. I dont think there's too much of a problem if it happened just this once but it must really be getting to you especially since the timing couldn't have been worse. Ask him why he did that, maybe that'll be a start
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (19 March 2007):
 Hi there,
I absolutely agree with Ponungalungb. You need to forgive this guy. He was with his ex for 15 years?!? That's a long time to be having sex with one woman. He made an honest mistake with you, I'm sure he's just so used to saying her name and the switch is hard to make.
I think it was an honest mistake. He hasn't made a habit of this, has he? Does he seem sorry? If he does, forgive him. If he let's that "accidentally" slip a few more times, then you have reason to get angry.
xxIndia
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reader, Ponungalungb +, writes (19 March 2007):
 Well, you have two choices:
1. Laugh it off as an honest mistake. (How many times did your parents call you your sisters name - if you have a sister. I have 2 brothers and I was called by their names on more than one occasion and I never went off on my parents).
2. Make a big deal about it, piss and moan, and make both of your lives miserable.
I'd go for the first option. . . but that's just me.
Good luck!
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