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writes:My boyfriend of 7 years got drunk at my birthday party and started being very argumentative with myself and my friends. It was embarrassing quite frankly for me and I know my friends don't really like him. The next few days I left to go on holiday with my friends but on the day of leaving he told me he's not happy but didn't have time to talk about it. It made the start of my holiday miserable but by the time I've come back he's acting like nothing is wrong. I'm confused over what is happening and if I should take heed of these red flags that are now coming up. Whilst I was away I felt a lot more like my normal self than I have for a while and not quite sure what my next steps should be.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2022): Well, you may not know exactly what his feelings are; but you know yours.
You said:
"Whilst I was away I felt a lot more like my normal self than I have for a while and not quite sure what my next steps should be."
Maybe your relationship has run it's course. Over seven years you've come to the make-it or break-it stage. What's in it for you? Is it getting better or worse? Weigh your pros and cons. Is he a better boyfriend now than he ever was, or is he a pain in the tush?
You felt better without him. I think fate, your common sense, and destiny are trying to tell you something. My takeaway from your post is you were happier without him. Take it from there.
The problem with some ladies who write DC is they can't make solid and sound decisions. They stay with lousy boyfriends out of "habit." They worry about how quickly he might get over them and start dating somebody else. Meanwhile, they get more and more addicted to the drama that comes with a dude you should've dumped a long time ago. Yes, breakups hurt, you feel withdrawal like you've gone cold-turkey off an addictive drug; but you will heal and recover in the end.
If you want a husband and a family someday; stop wasting your best years. If the guy is a tool; gather-up your courage, and decide what to do. Rather than still being with him seven more years, and a bunch of kids down the road; when he decides to dump you, and end-up with some other woman anyway. We might not be here then to advise you. BTW, he doesn't seem like husband-material; especially, when you feel better away from him!
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (30 August 2022):
 Sounded like he started to fight ON purpose to ruin your holiday. Either because he wasn't going or because he didn't want YOU to go.
He sounds like an ass.
Wish him well and be done with this manipulative asshat.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (30 August 2022):
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