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writes:When we romance with my husband his dick is always strong but when we start having sex his dick becomes weak. who's the problem me or him? Reply to this Question
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (30 September 2009):
neither of you are the problem. There could be a lot of reasons. Tireness, stress, performance anxiety. Take your time in getting to know each others bodies, and take time making sure you're both relaxed and ready.
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reader, Lola1  +, writes (30 September 2009):
Why does either of you need to be the problem? It is more important for you both to work together to find the solution.
Sexual Intimacy is best when it is the extension of Emotional Intimacy. A good marriage (like any relationship) is defined by how well it can overcome obstacles, not by the infinite avoidance of them.
It is time to reconnect with your husband emotionally. Have a face to face with him, without accusation or blame and find out what is going on in his head. Is there a concern or problem he is not sharing with you? It could be he wants to change things up in the bedroom or that he is worried he may lose a job.
When you have this conversation, use love and compassion as your tools and encourage his honesty by being open to hearing some things you may not like. Remember he loves you and react to what he has to say the way you want him to react, should you ever need to discuss something difficult with him.
Keep in mind he may not be willing to open up to you in conversation #1. If this is the case, do not argue or start into your old patterns of assigning blame. Leave him with the knowledge that you love him no matter what, do not want to pressure him and will allow him some time to think about what may be wrong and that you are open to working with him to make things better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 September 2009): If you want to start a fight, then you put blame. As I see this, BOTH OF YOU, you don't sound too willing to help. But ultimately, it's his dick and his brain and only he can make it go up or fall down.
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