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writes:What do you do when you have several guys that like you? I am a 20 year old junior in college, and I'm really not sure what I should do about these guys. The first one is a guy that goes to my college with me; he's an international student and can speak English pretty well but he still has a long way to go with it; he's really nice possibly the sweetest guy I've ever met, but I can already tell that he would be way too clingy. The second one is one of my ex-boyfriends; he likes me again and I still have some feelings for him, although I'm really not sure if dating him again would be the best idea right now. He lives about an hour and a half away so I don't get to see him too much, but we can still visit each other sometimes.The third one is probably the one I like the most. The only problem is that he lives in Texas (I live in Ohio), so I almost never get to see him. When I graduate college however, there is a possibility that I will move to Texas to find a job.What should I do? Pick one? Pick none? Any advice would be great and most appreciated!
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reader, multitalented  +, writes (30 August 2010):
To a guy this sounds perfect. 3 partners all living in different geographical locations, but all interested in you. Go for it ! Enjoy dating them all and see which one deserves you. However, be up front with all of them (non-exclusivity).
I sensed that your ex was the one that broke it off with you. If that is the case then you give him a little bit of uncertainty to think about while your deciding. Make him work for your attention. As far as the overseas student is concerned, be careful of what a long term relationship could mean, by all means get to know one another, date, enjoy each others company, but don't jump to conclusions about moving to anywhere in the world that could wind up being a major culture shock and the extinguisher of the flames of love.
Now a Texan could be interesting.........until you decide.
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reader, Oregongrl1 +, writes (30 August 2010):
Well this is fun! wer'e raffling off tickets or is it pick door 1 2 or 3 you are so funny! why don't you forget about 1 2 & 3 and start fresh? maybe thats an IDEA.
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reader, mizz.butterflies +, writes (30 August 2010):
 tennisstar is so cute and funny lol."cowboy"
anyway,haha. umm about the international dude,yes he would be clingy,if u already feeling like hes a little clingy,if u too date,and if u give up the good good,he most likely will go soooo crazy that you wish you never even talked to him. btw -where is he from?
now the ex. Thats a no no. He's an ex for a reason,plus,who likes microwave food when they can have a fresh meal? Say no to his microwave offer,and find someone new...
Cowboy guy,he seems to be the best out of 3,but he lives far.Maintain contact with him,and when u do graduate,you can see each other.Build your friendship up,and try to see (without being too straightforward) if he would be intrested in meeting you.
So,right now you're playing with these 3 guys.Keep doing so,get experience! build your confidence.
When the right guy comes along,you will know it. No need to choose between anyone else :)
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (30 August 2010):
 Let's weigh the pros and cons...
International hottie
Pros: That foreign hot factor, sweet, can speak English, and goes to your college.
Cons:Maybe going back to his country when he graduates, still a little of a language barrier, and the potential to be a stage 5 clinger.
The Ex
Pros: Likes you again and he would be willing to visit makes a good candidate for a LDR.
Cons: You would be in a LDR, your doubts, and he's an ex for a reason.
The Cowboy
Pros: You like him the most and, potentially getting a job in Texas, and who doesn't love Texas?
Cons: You would be in a LDR with a further distance than the Ex, you never get to see him, and you're assuming you're going to find a job in Texas.
Now, I've laid it out based on the info you provided. Questions I would ask yourself...can you handle a LDR, if you were to get into a LDR how much time would you have for the travel, would the Texas come and see you? Based on my results, the Ex looks the most favorable but why did you guys break up?
I would pick none of the above..
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