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writes:I moved city recently and I'm struggling to know people outside work so I joined loads of groups on meeting people sites. But loads of them (no I didnt join dating ones) are full of thirsty older guys, and it's really uncomfortable being at these sometimesWhat is actually good for meeting friends? Where's a good place to meet people my age? Reply to this Question
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reader, RubyBirtle +, writes (17 January 2017):
Well, in some respects "thirsty older guys" (as well as thirsty younger guys) are part and parcel of socialising as a single female, wherever you go. You just need a thick skin and a sense of humour and to ignore a lot of it. But I DO get it - it's really irritating and unnerving sometimes.
But now I'm going to bang on about my favourite subject and how I met all my friends....
Consider joining an amateur theatre company (and, if you are the lower end of your stated age range, youth theatre will be an option for you).
The beauty of am-dram is that you don't have to be able to act. You can be just as involved behind the scenes....
The costumes department can always use people who can sew but also people with an eye for both recent and period fashion. (And people to help the actors change quickly)
If you're good at art you can design posters and programmes or paint the set. If you're good at DIY you can even help BUILD the set. If you're good at crafts you can make props (or scour ebay and freecycle looking for them). Are you good at hair-styling or make-up?
Computer skills are useful as most companies will need to maintain websites and databases. If you like social media and have good people skills, you could use your skills in the marketing/advertising team.
And good people skills are also needed by the front-of-house team who meet and greet the audience and show them where the loos are. And many companies run their own bar so they need volunteer bar staff.
If you can read - you can go along to rehearsals to prompt the actors as they struggle with learning their lines.
And there's always a need for people who are well organised who can be ready in the wings to make that bell ring or light flash or apple drop just at the right moment.
And you can learn so much as well. I've done all sorts of things now that I never thought I would as well as make loads of friends.
All amateur theatre companies have websites so check them out. If you live in a city, there's bound to be more than one. Ask them about the kind of social events they have and see if you can go along to a couple before you join.
You may still meet the odd "thirsty older man" though (but ignore him - he's harmless! And women usually outnumber men in am-dram companies so there's safety in numbers)
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (17 January 2017):
 Ah, thirsty older guy?! lol Yeah, I don't blame you there.
I agree with IvyBlue,
A college bar would probably provide you with a bunch of people your age (and of course some thirsty older folks too).
If you are into sports, hiking, photography, arts - something like that you might also meet people your own age.
Are all the people you work with older than you?
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reader, Ivyblue  +, writes (17 January 2017):
 What about a Uni bar? They have good bands, cheap drinks and a wide variety of people your age. I dont think you need to be a student, well not here anyway. Do you have any interest or causes you are passionate about? At least you can be with like minded people. We have progressive dinner clubs here. You can go with many or go it alone. Basically you just buy a ticket and rock up, eat ,chat and move on to the next venue.
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