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writes:Any advice on meeting a girl I found online?We first exchanged emails a few months back (it was a dating site, she gave me her email address because she had blocked her account temporarily), but it has been irregular. She says she isn't always able to access the internet because of being ill. I believe her as she mentioned having being ill the first time we exhanged emails.Recently we have exchanged a lot of emails. We have exchanged photos. One thing I was nervous about was my weight problem, but I was honest about it, that I was working on it and sent photos as I said. She seemed fine with that.We seem to be getting on really well.It will be a while before we can meet as she lives in town where I am in uni, and I am home at the moment (she understands this).What advice do you have? Should I meet her? What kind of place would be good? I was thinking just a café in town as it would be somewhere I'd be comfortable, it would be public, but also quiet enough that we'd have space to talk.I am being cautious about this, for my own sake.
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reader, steelpicker +, writes (9 October 2009):
steelpicker is verified as being by the original poster of the question I see what you mean. :)
It's something I have had some difficulty with. The last time I asked a girl out (I actually think she was interested) I think I may have been less then cautious about remembering that the friendship had to keep itself going before anything else, and I was a bit...err...pushy maybe. We are still very good friends though.
As for this young lady, I am hoping we can have a friendship, and not just be a potential (un-met) partner.
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reader, steelpicker +, writes (8 October 2009):
steelpicker is verified as being by the original poster of the questionDo you mean "just friends"?
That would be strange considering we met on a dating site.
Hey if it came to it and we didn't get on in a romantic way maybe we could be friends, but we have to see how it goes.
I am of course trying to be a friend as well as a potential partner to her.
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reader, steelpicker +, writes (7 October 2009):
steelpicker is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell I know she has had health issues, and that is the reason she gave. I don't know what to think really, but I shall give her the benefit of the doubt.
We were chatting online an hour or two back and I did ask whether or not it was a good time to rearrange or if she'd prefer to wait if she weren't feeling too great. She said she'd prefer to wait.
I said then that I felt bad about having, and she said something like "you've said nothing to feel bad about. you're really lovely. Honestly you don't need to feel bad"
Can't remember the exact wording.
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reader, steelpicker +, writes (7 October 2009):
steelpicker is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHmm. She cancelled at the last minute. Disappointing and upsetting. I shall give her the benefit of the doubt this time though.
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reader, steelpicker +, writes (4 October 2009):
steelpicker is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks. I am terribly excited I have to say.
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reader, steelpicker +, writes (2 October 2009):
steelpicker is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe are meeting on Wednesday. Wish me all the best.
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