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writes:My bf planned for us to spend a week's vacation to their place this coming November. This is ok with me. I asked him to spend Christmas at my place then New Year at their place, but he insisted on spending both holidays at their place.His reasoning was that we could more comfortably enjoy spending the vacation there than spending it here.My father doesn't know about our relationship yet. Is this the best thing for me to do ? To spend my vacations with my bf? I really wanted to be with him. Please help
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reader, Tommy7  +, writes (7 October 2007):
I think it is time your bf met your parents.
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reader, flower girl  +, writes (7 October 2007):
 The holiday vacations i believe should be spent with the family, maybe i'm just old fashioned.
I totally understand that you want to spend time with him, but i also think he should have abit more respect for the fact you would also like to spend some time with your family, i think that suggestion you made which meant you would both get time to see your families was perfectly reasonable and considering your father does not yet know about the relationship, when he does find out he is not going to think very much of your other half not willing to spend time with your family.
Maybe you need to try talking to him and trying to find out why he does not want to spend time with them, it could be that he feels uncomfortable about the fact your father does not even know about him.
There needs to be give and take in a relationship or it will never work no matter how much you love the other person.
Take care.xx.
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