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*alaway0203
writes:My fiance' and I are both virgins and have agreed to not have sex until our wedding night (we want that to be a special time for the both of us). While I have never had sex before, I do understand quite a bit and have read up on several things. My question then is where is the best "place" (if you will) to ejaculate after sex? She is going on birth control soon so it wont be a big deal if I let it go inside of her, but is that the best place? Should I pull out right before? What is more enjoyable for her? (that is my main focus b/c I just want it to be good for her!) Please any help will be appreciated (ladies your info is really what I'm looking for!)
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2017): I loved the first time. Slow loving from my new husband. Lots of foreplay, and then he finished inside me. It was sweet, warm, and loving. So stay inside for the first time. You won't regret it and neither will she.
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reader, DMO +, writes (4 October 2008):
First time, just dump your load in her. Pulling out after first time can be a mess and you don't know here the sperm might go. You can be aiming a her stomach and shoot your sperm on her face or whatever. I lost a relationship because of this, not trying to be funny either.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 May 2008): Talk to her about it beforehand and find out what she prefers. Personally I love it on my belly and chest but it's messy and less romantic. For the first time, you might want to leave it in. Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2008): Congratulations on your upcoming marriage. You have chosen to save yourself for your wedding night which will make it special. It will be even more special if you stay inside when you ejaculate. It is much more intimate and loving. Just relax and enjoy yourself. Nature has a way of taking care of you both. Years from now, you will look back on this as one of the most special moments of your life.
And listen to what Cathy was saying about sex for procreation. When you two are ready for children, you will find that making love to your wife and creating a child will be the most erotic, sensual and loving experience that can be shared between a man and a woman. My son is 21 yrs old and I still remember it like it was yesterday.
Best of luck to you and your bride.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2008): Release your sperm inside of her! Especially if it is your first time having sex. You will always remember it. Plus there is a special bond when a man releases his sperm inside you. It also brings you to a higher level of trust, since you are trusing him enough to put is very essence inside you.
And wait until you want to have kids and have sex to actually get her pregnant. I loved it when I knew he was about to release his sperm and I knew I was very fertile at the time. And when I felt his sperm pulsating inside me creating a new life, I held him tight against me to keep that moment alive.
Cathy
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2008): Leave it in for sure. She will love it and so will you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 February 2008): the best place is to ejaculate is on her stomach or on her back. Most girls enjoy this as well.
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reader, daletom +, writes (23 January 2008):
The majority of couples, most of the time, prefer the guy to ejaculate in her vagina. This usually feels more "complete" and satisfying to both partners. Both guys and girls often get great satisfaction from being with their partners at orgasm and feeling them climax, and you inside her is probably the best way to do this. For me there has always been a special intimacy to finishing inside my wife then staying coupled and feeling myself go soft inside her as we enjoy the afterglow. At your age - you may be ready to go again in just 5 or 10 minutes and the sensations of that 2nd intercourse will be somewhat different (for many folks, pleasantly different) for both of you with your semen inside her.
A few women are paranoid about pregnancy and want the guy to pull out even if they are using 3 or 4 birth control methods at once. Some guys, and girls, like the sensation of ejaculating in her mouth. And occasionally there is a special thrill from the naughtiness of pulling out and watching the semen spurt out on her breasts, face, or butt.
In the months after you are married I hope you experiment a little with all of these ideas, find what each of you most enjoys, and don't be afraid to use any of them when the mood strikes you.
By the way - I admire your decision to wait for marriage. If you have helped each other keep that promise you have probably built a lot of trust and respect into your relationship that will serve you well in the years to come. As you say, it can be especially meaningful in the mental and emotional dimension.
I hope you aren't expecting your first time together to be physically perfect, or even close. I think it's wise for her to use birth control pills so you don't have the additional worries of using condoms correctly. I've discussed some things related to your situation in the threads "I'm a virgin and worried about my wedding night..." at [ http://www.dearcupid.org/question/im-a-virgin-and-worried-about-my-wedding.html ], and "For those who do not believe in sex before marriage for religious reasons ..." at [ http://www.dearcupid.org/question/for-those-who-do-not-believe-in-sex.html ], and "First time - painful?" at [ http://www.dearcupid.org/question/first-time---painful.html ] - both of you may want to read those.
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reader, sexi  +, writes (23 January 2008):
 Hi
I would say do it inside her. As important as it is to you to let it be good for her, it is just as importent to her for her to know that you are feeling good. That would be really nice. I think that you should also ask her for her opinion, she may have a special place as mentioned before everyone is different.
Regards,mail me if you wanna chat
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reader, lynnb84  +, writes (23 January 2008):
Dont pull out of her! Ejaculate inside her(this is the best part for most women) If shes on birth control then theres nothing to worry about her getting pregnant. I love it when me and my partener have sex, and he comes inside me and then we just lie there for ages with him on top of me and still inside me. its so intimate. You pulling out before coming is so off putting, and much less intimate. But if your really worried about coming inside her, then a lot of women like it when a man comes on her boobs. Talk to your fiance find out what she wants.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (23 January 2008):
 Do it inside of her , for she can feel your throbbing and jerking actions.Not all women are the same , ask her for her opinions.
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