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writes:Is our friendship moving in a different direction?I'm not real sure how to take this. He's my neighbor - a 42 year old single male. I'm a 29 year old single female. We are really good friends and sort of have a brother/sister type relationship.Lately, things have been a little different. Long story short? Just decipher the latest scenarios...2 nights ago he came over after he got home late from work.. (He always comes over to my house every night - 7 nights a week) but he got off extra late and still decided to come over. Usually, he calls me instead of comes over if it's that late in the night.Anyway, he came over for a little bit and went home. He was in a jerk-ish mood so I called him when he got home and asked him why he was in such a bad mood. He got major attitude with me so I just hung up on him. He tried calling me back and I didn't answer. He tried calling back again, and I didn't answer. One more time - and I just ignored the call. He called back about 45 minutes later (after I was asleep) and I still didn't answer. 7:00 in the morning he called me and he was still in bed. He was talking like he was all sad I hung up on him the night before and told me that he just gets really cranky when he works long nights and he was just real tired.Yesterday, 4th of July.. I spent the day at the beach with my family. We called each other about 4 times throughout the day. It was kind of relationship-y. Hard to explain. I mean, we're just friends but it's like we were keepin tabs on eachother or something. When the fireworks went off he called me and was talking to me when they were going off. He was up on this mountain by himself with his dog and just decided to call me during the fireworks (knowing I was with my family). He then told me he'd see me when I got home?? I got home at 11pm and he came right over.. watched tv for about half an hour with me and then went home.What is going on here? Help! Reply to this Question
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reader, rcn +, writes (6 July 2009):
 It seems as if one or both of you has at least explored the possibility of being more than just friends. The question is: How long are you two going to deny you do. "I mean, we're just friends but it's like we were keepin tabs on eachother or something." And his coming "right" over. He must have really missed you in the (just friends) kinda way. Sit down and really thing about it. Are you wanting more with this "just friend"?
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reader, dearkelja +, writes (6 July 2009):
 This man seems awful needy. I think he has grown attached to you and is rather possesive. I don't think I would be comfortable with this and I would start to put up some boundries. His calling when you clearly weren't going to answer and especially when you were sleeping wasn't good. He also then tried to control you by being emotially needy.
Set up some boundries and maybe back off the friendship a little.
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