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writes:I still don't get where a guy is supposed to try and meet single women. Why is it so hard at my age? Everyone says that gym is a bad idea.. the bar is a bad idea, workplace is off limits, etc. You can't approach a woman at the park because you will get accused of harassment.So now that we have established what the "bad ideas" are... what are the good ideas? I'm really at a loss here.P.S. don't suggest online dating, already done that one to death.
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reader, aunt honesty +, writes (28 November 2017):
 I don't find chatting up women in pubs and clubs a bad idea, that is how I met my husband. Also what are your interests? What do you like to do? If you explain more off them then maybe I could help more. But in Irish society it is often true that people meet a lot through alcohol. In fairness maybe you need to try some other online dating sites, maybe ones where you pay for that way it swindles out most off the time wasters.
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reader, HoneyQueen  +, writes (23 November 2017):
You are right to be wary about meeting women at the park! Unless you are walking a dog and have a common opening conersational gambit to share with the lady, most women will be very put off! That said, church and volunteer organizations are also rather off-putting for men because the women there are not generally there to meet a man. Or even if they are, they maybe unrealistic about that. Meetup groups are great for being social, and women are highly represented in those groups generally, so they are not a bad idea at all. You will have to spend some cash to join groups. after a try-out period though, so be choosey. There are also a lot of social issues groups that might be helpful. I would also consider paying a few visits to some of the dating coach gurus online on YouTube. They are fascinating. And watch some of the ones for women trying to find love and companionship too. You'll feel less lonely and wbo knows? You may build a greater core of knowledge about women and be encouraged to continue trying! Best Wishes!
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reader, Andie's Thoughts  +, writes (18 November 2017):
 OP, don't give up on online dating. You're frustrated, I get it, but that's just life. Dating is about testing the waters until it works.
Volunteer, church, new hobbies, forums of hobbies you have, speed dating, singles events, etc.
Your attitude will be your biggest hurdle.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (18 November 2017):
 Meetup groups, hobby groups, through friends and family. If you belong to a church that can also be a good place.
There are dating apps as well.
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reader, Denizen +, writes (18 November 2017):
 If you have posted this question to make a point then I think you have a good one. There are a lot of taboos and no-go areas.
However if you are seriously asking at your age then I have to wonder. Do you not have friends? Don't you go out with them or have a meal with them?
Are you connected to any organisations, hobby clubs, whatever, when you aren't at work. The thing is, and this may seem a little strange, you don't find love by looking for it. It sort of finds you at unexpected times and in unexpected places. It is hard to define but consider this. If you were asked how you go to sleep you couldn't say. You can only put yourself in a situation in which sleep is likely - and it happens as if by magic. It's a bit like that only not as restful.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2017): Well, years ago and before the online dating age we used to spruce up once or twice a week and go dancing and hope that we will meet someone nice there. Also we would ask a super market assistant for a date if she showed interest or we could meet someone at a friends party or in a cafe or even someone from shool or work or meet someone on the way to work or school. The main think is to know how to start a conversation with a stranger and raise their interest to want to know you better.
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reader, Youcannotbeserious +, writes (18 November 2017):
 Where do your interests and passions lie? What makes your blood boil or makes your heart skip a beat? Take a course in something which interests you. Volunteer to help with a cause you believe in. You will then meet like-minded people, widen your circle of friends and, hopefully, meet available ladies who you will have something in common with and who will be interested in dating you.
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reader, Billy Bathgate +, writes (18 November 2017):
Church, volunteer at a charity, take a group dance class at a large dance studio that has singles events. Match dot com.
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