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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I am so confused..... I broke up with my bf around 6 months ago but we have remained best friends. Our relationship has always been complicated due to him being forced into marriage by his family. As I said before we have remained friends and if I am totally honest I am still in love with him and would take him back in a heartbeat (minus the wife). Due to him living out of the country we don't get to talk as much as we did (too expensive) but when we do, we talk for hours mainly about our future together and sexual things we will do together when he gets back. I know I shouldn't engage in this type of convo with him but I can't help myself. He saids that he wants me to be happy and find true love but at the same time he will talk about us getting married and having children and when I ask him where we stand, he saids that I am his ex-girlfriend but I will always be his baby.Ok so now this has left me 100% confused; my head is telling me to move on but my heart has other ideas. I know he does not love his wife but at the same time I am not actually sure he loves me. We had a very high sexual relationship and my fear is that he is keeping me hanging on so that we can start some sort of affair when he gets back (he knows I find it hard to turn him down). I am the stage where I want to move on which would mean stopping all contact with him and no going back but I risk losing not only the man I love but also my best friend; I am not sure that this is a risk worth taking.If I knew that he really loved me then I would happily wait for him to sort out all his family/marriage issues but right now he is sending me so many mixed signals that I am stuck in limbo.Sorry for the long text!:(
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2008): Hi, trust your guts, I also believe that what you fear is highly highly possible. I had an ex who told me those sort of thing and talked about all the sexual thing we could do when we were married (he even had names for our babies)until I realised what he actually ment: He wanted us to have a long lasting affair while both of us were married to different people.
Under the pretext of being very good friends, he tried to booty-call me many times until I realised his intentions and refused to see him completely. It wasn't long before he got the message and stopped calling (so much for the so called love and friendship).
Trust me it might be hard but you'll be better off without him, you'll meet someone way more attractive and better lover and you'll be glad you left him behind. If you worry about the friendship, you'll find friends who share interests with you without the sexual fantasies.
If you believe in farytales an believe he's the one for you. Then stop contact with him, let him sort out his marriage/family issues, and then come to you. If you're still lingering there, always available, you'll spoil that happy ending yourself.
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reader, phoenix85  +, writes (9 November 2008):
move onnnn,its too much drama for love.u deserve someone that only belongs to u.sorry honey i know for me it s easy to say but why he would leave his wife and marry with u while he know u will wait him as long as he wants,and u r up to anything with him if he wants.
did u watch the movie called HOLIDAY.u should watch it,u will understand what i mean more clear.
good luck
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