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*ello Holly
writes:I've been dating this guy that I met at work for 6 weeks now and things are going great. We click on every level and have even talked about living together and possibly marriage. My problem is this, we make plans and then he sometimes doesn't follow through. We were supposed to go out on Friday and then he ended up watching his nieces and nephew. We rescheduled for Sunday and then a friend came in town. Finally, today we were supposed to go out and then he canceled on me to go be with a friend who just had a nasty break up. I really want to ask him where I fall in the grand scheme of things. I never want him to feel like he has to choose between people in his life. Is it worth discussing? What do I say and how can I bring it up without causing a major fight?
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2007): Don't bring it up, be less available yourself, get busy with things you used to do before he came along...6 weeks is too early to be talking about marriage and living together, he may just be telling you what he thinks you want to hear so he can have sex with you, now that he has most likely done that, he is backing away from relationship...take it as your cue to do the same, and if he starts chasing then maybe there is a likelihood that he is more interested in a relationship, but let him do the asking for more time, don't you do it first, and let him start the talk about a relationship with you, guys are hunters, let him hunt you down....otherwise he may continue to back away, sucks I know.
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