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writes:I have a guy friend who ive been friends with for two years.He was always there for me,giving me advice when i needed it wnd we'd hang out from time to time. I went thru a horrilble breakup in feb and he was there for me through that too. About two months ago,he told me he felt that i was THE ONE for him and that he loved me and he'd always been highly attracted to me and to give us a chance because he swears on his life that he would NEVER EVER do any thing to intentionally hurt me.I allowed myself to open up to him a little bit. After I opened up - he's stood me up twice, didnt call when he says he is, and he has excuses when i confront him about the situation. the other day he finnally said that he wants our friendship to go back to the way that it used to be so we can start all over because Ive changed - a bunch of bull. that was 5 days ago and i havent spoken to him since. he doesnt seem to care either.where did i go wrong.i wasnt clingy-i just asked one time for an explaination on why i was stood up Reply to this Question
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reader, dearkelja +, writes (20 September 2008):
 It sounds as if this fella liked the chase. Once he had you where he wanted you his true colors came through. I do not think it is fair for him to ask you to go back to the way things were because you can not. Things advanced and there are bitter feelings (seems on both your ends-he thinking you changed-you understandably)regarding the relationship. And if he asks, remind him that even friends do not stand friends up or say they'll call and then don't. You were perfectly in your rights to ask him what happened, he owed you an explanation.
Perhaps the boyfriends in your past treated you badly and he thought he could do the same. You didn't go wrong here, he did. So, he was a great friend when you needed him so appreciate him for that. Try to move on.
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