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writes:HelloPlease pardon this being an extremely long story, but i want all of the information to bc clearly understood so i can get a good answer. Thank you for your timeI am an average teenager, but a little young for my grade. I am Asian, 5'11", athletic built, smart and i try my best to be nice and everyone friend.I attend a private high school with fewer than 100 students.Going into high school i wanted nothing to do with girls. Until i hit my sophomore year. I moved to an old school that i went to in junior high, so i wasn't new new, but not everyone knew me.The year began and i instantly started making friends, but mostly with girls. I talked myself into allowing them to be my friend but still avoid any deep personal contact, until i met 'her'. i was immediately transfixed by her beauty, and what made it better was that she was in my grade and also very close friend to one of my old 'girl'friends(she was like another sister).i eventually got to know her and we hit it off from the bat. We became very close friends in a matter of weeks. We eventually began to flirt and i got her number and we began texting almost every day for hours. As the months moved on and we went to more events together, i thought maybe she liked me. I didn't know who to go to for help so i just trusted my gut and asked her our. She apparently hadn't had any feelings for me and just wanted to stay as friends. I was completely confused and very hurt. But i got over it and we went back to being good friends, but then she began flirting with me again. I fell for it and did it back. Eventually everyone in the school saw us flirting and wanted us to date. This happened prior to me asking her out. The year started to near an end and music tour was right around the corner. And for beginning transportation, we took a train. It was gonna be almost 17 hours long. I decided to try to sit with her but she decided to sit with one of her friends so i sat with my fake sister/girlfriend. We played games and watched movies. We texted each other while riding. I eventually had her sitting next to her for a movie and put my hand on her knee/leg. She didn't seem to mind so i left it there for a while then i had to go to the bathroom. The movie ended. Through the tour she stole one of my favorite shirts with my favorite cologne on it and she smelt it and kept it with her. Near the end she gave it back. On the train ride back i saw a perfect opportunity to try to get the chair next to her but no again. Everyone on the train slept for a few hours then began to eat and play games again. Eventually it was me and her again. I put my arm around her and she didn't seem to mind and we eventually were leaning on each other. Then a teacher walked by and we immediately stopped. She got up and walked away to who knows where. I texted her and apologized. She said it was fine but she doesn't want to get caught doing anything like that. We didn't talk for nearly a week. Last month of school our friendship was back to normal, but the flirting seemed to be a lot on some days and none on the other. There is another guy at our school who is quite the hit with the girls, but is quite the jerk. He has broken at least 2 hearts a year and moves on to the next girl very fast. Once he has the girl hooked and wanting to date him, he begins to look for the next after dating for a month.I have ended my liking for her but i fear that she is falling for his traps and will be hurt too. Its not that i am worried that i won't get the chance with her, but as a friend i don't want her hurt.What did i do wrong in the past?what should i do about it all now?what if she does date this guy?thank you for your time
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (1 July 2012):
 I think you should tell her your worries. If he is knowing for being a player and hurting girls well then am sure she knows what he is like to begin with. Tell her as a friend you are worried that she will get hurt. Although be prepared that she might take this the wrong way and think it is because you still like her, and deep down I think a part of this is because you still like her. Just be honest with yourself and with her.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (22 June 2012):
 With girls you should ask them out right from the start and not wait until you are close friends. A few weeks is too long. When you wait the girls sense that you are not gutsy enough; your interest is not strong enough and you will be friendzoned forever.
I wouldn't say anything is so wrong. This is what teenagers do. At 14 I would like being touched but now I don't think this is the right way to be in a public place, maybe in a dark theatre it's fine. Stealing your shirt is not right also, altough at your age it's cute.
If she ends up dating the jerk tell her he has a reputation as a player. Upon hearing that she's not going to put her whole heart in.
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